Psychological abuse or me just overreacting and being silly

[EducateMe101]

If my ex who I have a child to is telling me if we don’t give it another go he’d move on with other woman’s putting pictures in my head with him with other woman. Flaunting that woman flirt with him and he could “have sex any moment he wanted and it isn’t hard to get sex” “other woman message me all the time” and when together told me he was going to go out and sleep wit other woman but then said he hadn’t. While it is rotten to hear is it psychological abuse of am I just being touchy? What do I do about this because I don’t want to be with him but them thoughts in my head then my stomach. I appreciate this is very immature but this is a very real thing to me so please be kind with messages

it’s like toddlers isn’t it. All wanting the same toy. He is manipulating you into staying for fear of someone else playing.
Thats no reason to stay with someone. He sounds a shit, he’s not trying to rectify the issue, not trying to make you happy. Just jealous

He's an ex. At some point he's going to move on anyway. Let him. Don't dignify his comments with any response than "ok so".

It's blackmail isn't it? Don't bother trying to give it a name. A turd is a turd. Do you share a house? If not, use a parenting app for contact arrangements. Don't reply to anything else. He's looking for a response so don't give him any.

You aren't being silly OP.
He is doing this deliberately to hurt you and I would consider it a form of abuse
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You should ensure you only have contact with him when it is necessary re the parenting of your child.Shut down any other communication with him.

He is getting the first dig in. I can imagine his hypocritical reaction when you finally move on and get with someone else. He is a dick. Sack him off and only have contact regarding child arrangements. He does not need to tell you about his possible dating life. He is an Ex for a reason.

I mean, to my mind there is a gap between being a dick and psychological abuse and to me this is the first. He's saying if you don't get back with him he'll move on, fine, right, leave the loser to it! He sounds pathetic and he can't be alone. Don't let him see he's getting to you ❤️

Don't listen to him. You are better off without him and any contact between you should be about your DC not you. Tell him firmly you have moved on and he should too. Don't have a convo about it just say you've moved on and he should too.

Its pathetic is what it is. Laugh in his face, tell him to go ahead and do it and please for the love of God, do not consider taking back this sad little boy. You can do better. Literally anyone could do better. Free yourself up to meet a decent bloke who actually went through puberty and became a man.

"Oh, right. . . I thought we'd 'moved on' quite a while ago. I know I have." Just sound like he's being weird and you're confused. If needed, throw in a reference to the great sex you've been having.

Wish him luck with all his women and move on.

Don't bother playing his games.

He is your ex. So not as important to you as he once was, which is a bit of a hurt to his ego.

It's all blather and feathers, he is like a mardy peacock strutting his stuff to impress.

But he is not impressing, he is a nob.

Just smile nicely and ignore.

But I wouldn't say it's psychological, just a nob end being a nob end.

He an asshole.

I wouldn’t call this abuse. He’s just being a dickhead. You don’t have to listen to it.

In this instance, I don't think it matters. He's obviously a complete prick and you're better off without him and his pathetic, dick-swinging bullshit.

I wouldn’t say it’s abuse - he’s an ex so who cares if he gets shagged 50 times a week - but it’s just pathetically immature. He’s clearly a loser if he has to try and big himself up like this and try to make you jealous. Hate you tried laughing in his face and telling him you find that hard to believe? No point in thinking you’re a victim here because he doesn’t owe you fidelity.

You're just being touchy.

It's not abuse. It's just cringy and would give me the ick.

Why on earth he thinks saying such cringy things would make you want him I have no idea.

It certainly wouldn't bother me. It would probably make me laugh at how ridiculous he sounded.

Well it's true. If you don't get back with him, he will presumably get with another woman eventually. Thats usually what happens when people split up when they're relatively young. Not everyone stays single and celibate forever.

I would reframe it at total face value like that and think 'great. Not my problem anymore'.

Perhaps he's trying to manipulate you and was doing so when married with the prospect of other women, he seems to have form. However I would try to not engage. I think what you should be saying to yourself and to him is 'so what?' or 'yes, I expect you will. Good luck' now.

Yes he is tryign to mess with you, yes this isn't pleasant behaviour and if you were still with him I'd say its abusive..

But you're not and you don't want to be, I assume you ditched him, if he is making these pathetic efforts to drive you back to him... remind yourself why you did that.

He sounds like a piece of shit, why would you care if he is doing whatever with someone else, except perhaps to feel sorry for that someone else that they get stuck with him?

If you throw out some trash into the bin... do you honestly give a shit what happens to it once it gets to the dump? Same same.

It's not psychological abuse. It's him boasting and being a dickhead. You are much better off without him and you don't have to listen to his bullshit. Laugh in his face and tell him the other women are welcome to him. Move on with your life OP, you deserve SO much better than this loser!