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[Kleeklee86]

We have bought a house earlier this year, oh has a teen who would always come up even on days that was suppose to be with op. Oh has spent over 2K on bedroom and it’s been slept in 4 times! Oh ex had said now their not coming up as much she wants more money even though before she was having child maintenance when we could have stopped it, she’s on child number 5 it really annoys me we work constantly to keep our bills up to date and she just thinks she can just take take take btw the child maintenance isn’t even spent on the child it’s spent on herself

I had to read that a few times to understand. I'm not sure what to say really. How old is the teen? In my experience, they can't really be bothered to move between two homes the older they get. It's an effort for them, particularly if the homes are relatively far apart and all social opportunities are in one place!

Sorry yes I agree age is 13 and not too far from house with main parent I was thinking the socialisation part was the mai factor but it’s never been an issue before other half would drop down to see friends on our weekends?

Sorry I don’t understand is it that teen isn’t visiting enough?

I don’t understand your point.

Are you angry with the teenager for not visiting as often? That would be unreasonable as teens often spend far more time with their friends as they get older, and they are probably happier popping in to see their NRP rather than strictly scheduled overnights.

Are you angry with the teens mother for adjusting her CM claim? That would be unreasonable as if teen is spending fewer or no overnights with NRP then the formula will increase maintenance payable.

Or are you angry with your DP for spending such a large amount of money without knowing how often teen would be staying? That would be reasonable.

Not being funny but if you're not having the child that often of course CM will be changed?

What did he spend £2000 on?

why does it make a difference how many children the daughters mother has?

Her mum
psys all the bills to have a home for their DD. Mortgage/rent, council tax, utilities, etc etc. she buys the groceries, clothes, shoes, funds her entertainment & school stuff.

the CMS goes a small way towards that, you can't possibly say she spends it on herself.

the child is 13, she can choose where she wants to be. For whatever reason she's choosing to be at her Mums.

you need to stop being so focussed on his money & he needs to talk to his DD WHY she isn't wanting to be at his much...

If your sd visits dad less then he owes more child maintenance.

Will the 2k spent on her bedroom be returned when he sells the house? I’m wondering if the 2k is fancy bed and gadgets or stuff like plastering and new flooring ?

Only 13?

Plenty of time to start using the room in the future.

And he's done 2k worth of improvements to your home, everyone's a winner.

How do you know the ins and outs of what she spends her money on BTW?

If she's spending the child maintenance on herself, she'll be spending her own money on the DC, so it's swings and roundabouts 🤷‍♂️

She doesn’t work she lives off handouts, the room was 2k for the bed mirror etc, the maintenance never changed in the beginning even when the teen was staying four/five times a week and btw I’m not obsessed by money, I’m just annoyed that the ex takes takes takes she looks immaculate whilst her kids look like scruffs

You sound awful, and not very clever tbh. Do you have kids of your own! Honestly it's not weird for them to look like scruffs within 12 minutes of being dressed based on my own