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Emotional Abuse

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Srepmum1984 · 18/10/2024 10:08

Good Morning.

My son who is 16 had a complete mental break and ended up in hospital the other night after having had enough of how his dad speaks to him. His dad does not live with us and hasn't since he was 4 due to him physically abusing me.

I've read the messages and have attached them. My son is the green messages and his father is the black.

After attending hospital and reading them I was offered intervention from social services and have accepted a family assesment.

His family are messaging me saying there are two sides to every story meaning between him and my son.

Please tell me I'm not being dramatic and these messages are absolutley disgusting. I would say this tone is 70% of their messaging.

His dad and family are now having a panic I've involved social services but I no longer care. I had to fly my son back early from Spain on a holiday with dad's family as he was having panic attacks being around him and that was the final straw for me and I've had enough and want professional help for him to deal with this.

They're telling me this is a normal way to speak to children???

My son does boxing for the context of these screen shots and popped his shoulder out resulting in MRIs and physiotherapy and the other time he missed boxing was due to having covid.

Emotional Abuse
Emotional Abuse
OP posts:
Srepmum1984 · 18/10/2024 10:12

Since having gone through the messages and with the help of a Chams worker at hospital my son has been reassured it's OK to block his dad from messaging him and has done so.

OP posts:
dreamer24 · 18/10/2024 10:12

I mean the father sounds disgusting the way he speaks to his son, absolutely awful.

By the way OP your son's first name is visible in one of his dad's messages, just so you know, in case you wanted to edit that out.

Pashazade · 18/10/2024 10:17

He never has to see his father again, he certainly can't force him at this age. I would be working hard to make sure there were no available access points and be careful of people suggesting his father has a right to see him. If they do don't let them anywhere near your son they don't have his best interests at heart.

Whatafustercluck · 18/10/2024 10:19

Yes, at his age your son can choose to go no contact and tbh I'd be encouraging him to preserve his mental health.

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