So imagine a close family member is very ill, and it's touch and go.
They're not old, just a random thing that could turn out to be serious but they could equally get better with the right treatment.
Or not!! We just don't know.
So my husband is saying "oh it's nothing, oh don't worry about it"
And then becomes testy with me because of course I'm worrying about it.
And my constant worrying upsets his social plans because he isn't at all worried about anything. He's not a worrier. So I say I can't go make jolly with his friends while I'm waiting for some very short term results. Because I'm worried, and I can't socialise while I'm so worried. It's not forever. Just while this health thing becomes more clear. A month or so until we have some clear results.
He says we should go ahead with jollification (or invitations to dinner) because it takes your mind off it.
Nothing takes my mind off it. It's a strain to pretend to be having a good time whilst you have this black cloud of worry hanging over you. So my question is, am I being unreasonable?
YABU Yes, you should go out, get drunk, and fuck worrying.
YANBU It's really difficult to pretend to be having a good time and make small talk whilst a close relative is quite ill and might not get better.