Ok so I’m feeling a bit upset/frustrated probably over something and nothing but I need to vent. It’s over the relationship with my sister. We are both in our 40’s and up until recently I’d have said we were close but I really feel like she can’t be arsed with me anymore and I’m left wondering if it’s something I have done. She used to always be popping in at my house or i’d go round to hers and now unless it’s a family gathering for something specific I don’t really see her.
It ended up it was always me trying to make an effort but she was always to busy. She treats our parents like this sometimes too eg she hasn’t always got time to see them but then you’ll see on Facebook she’s out with friends instead which is fine but then why not just say that. So at first because she is like this with our mum and dad I didn’t take it personally I just assumed she was busy but yeah I don’t think it’s just that. I feel like she’s avoiding me.
She had some good news a while back and I of course congratulated her and told her well done but she became very braggy about the situation and it was all she talked about. Whilst I didn’t say anything I’m worried my face said it for me and maybe she twigged I was getting a little frustrated. But it was only because like I said she does tend to brag, is very money orientated borderline obsessive where as I’m very modest about any achievements. That said just because I’m modest it doesn’t mean I don’t like to see others achieve, on the contrary and like I said I congratulated her but I have a feeling she thinks I’m jealous when this really is not the case at all.
Ah I don’t know. I know people can simply grow apart but it makes me sad. Since her ex came back on the scene last year I gradually started to see less of her but before this she was never away from my house so I feel a little used. Then this year I’ve seen even less of her and now like I said it’s like once a month now.
Usually because I’m a people pleaser I’d be chasing her but I can’t do that anymore and nor do I want to. I think because I work part time and she works full time she thinks I have all the time in the world and I should be the one to make more of an effort but I try and she’s always to busy. With anyone else in my life if this were happening I could easily approach them and discuss it with them but my sister can be quite impulsive and takes offence very easily so I suspect she’d think I was having a go at her. What do I do?