To try to find a way to get my 13 year old daughter's (boy)friend's mother's mumber?

[JoyousLemonCat]

Hiya

My 13 year old DD and a boy of the same age in her class have struck up a bit of a relationship. They chat at school and call each other sometimes it's all just chat about homework and normal friend stuff.

they have decided to go trick or treating together - half way between their two houses.

while I think this is very sweet - it makes me feel a bit nervous as I've never met the boy in person and have also never met his mum/family!

For context I wouldn't want her going trick or treating with a girl who I have never met or whose family I don't know.

Do you think I can engineer a way to make contact with his mum that doesn't embarrass her or come over as stalker-is?!!!

School WhatsApp group or friend of a friend?

I’d just ask her to get it for you, why not?More importantly I think I’d ask her to bring the boy over, even before they go out at Halloween. It can be a quick hello before they go out. I was very relaxed with my DD but at that age would have expected this.

I'd tell dd to invite the boy over as you would if it were a female friend?

Get the boy to come over to yours first?

I wouldn't contact the boy's mum, what are you going to say? I'd tell DD that you want to meet the boy first and invite him over for dinner one night? Then you can chat and get to know him a bit.

I wouldn’t contact the boys mum- what are you hoping to achieve here?

At 13, I think you're fighting a losing battle. I might be the minority but I don't know any 13 year old that wouldn't be mortified by this. I'd just check in with your daughter. Arrange times for drop off and pick up and ask them to keep in touch.

If they are still young enough to go trick or treating, they are young enough that their mums need to know where they are and who they are with.