Working for or with your DH

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Anyone else work for or with your DH and want to vent....

We work together in our own business. We each bring our respective skills and qualifications to the table and really need each other in this so its not a case of poor little SAHM who does her husbands admin.

Most days when we are both managing our respective sides of the business things are just great. Some days when they overlap and we have to meet or present to each other..... I could honestly kill him. (I love him so I wont). But goodness me.... This is its own unique set of challenges.

Im defensive (I own that) and he is just downright Mr Serious Bossy Pants.

PS Business is fairly succesfull and the pros of owning your own business in terms of being able to manage your free time and not be an employee are GREAT! (Most of the time, except when DH is being Mr Bossy Pants).

I work with DP directly all day every day. Tbh it works for us. We've been together decades though and know each others strengths and weaknesses. We have also learned how to argue really really quietly (we work in other people's houses).

I work with DH. The business is based around his skill set and I evolved into it, my career pre-DC being a very different one. Over (many) years I have become very good at what I do. Respect took a little longer to achieve as I was seen to only be at a high level in the industry because of my DH. In fairness there was some truth in that initially, mostly because, despite many extremely competent woman existing, it was harder to achieve high level roles in such a male dominated industry (construction). Thankfully much has changed in the past 20 years, and I would like to take a tiny bit of credit for that.
I cannot imagine not having our own company now. Our roles are very different and we head separate teams but it is amazingly empowering to know my business partner has the same morals and goals.

Weve been doing this for about 15 years and have yet to learn how to actually disagree about the point at hand. It always turns into an argument about the way in which we deal with each other. Such a flipping waste of time as we then dont actually get to deal with the point at hand.

And dont get me wrong - For the most part we get along great and must be doing something right as we have achieved much success.

I wouldnt change anything except for the way in which we disagree.

I think we are both exceptionally good at our jobs but his role in operations requires my output in order to measure it and he just never seems happy with it and wants more. I feel like he is attacking the work I do do by never being satisfied that its enough.