Dating App Man OTT

[ShockedAtSomePeople]

So I matched with a guy on Badoo, we exchanged like two messages. It was literally "hello how are you" and I responded. He replied again however Badoo app doesn't give me notifications, and a day later I received a message on Facebook dating app from him asking why I've not responded on Badoo. We had obviously matched a while ago on Facebook dating app I presume. I explained that it was because I don't get notifications on Badoo. So we chatted on Facebook dating app and we then exchange numbers and speak on WhatsApp. I then deleted the messages on Facebook dating as I tend to clear out the messages if I'm not speaking with someone on there anymore or if we've transferred to WhatsApp. However sometimes I don't get signal on my phone if I'm in certain locations. I replied to him about an hour ago and when I finally got signal I suddenly received all these missed call notifications and a SMS text message asking why I've deleted him on the app and clearly I had blocked him on WhatsApp because it was only showing one tick. I literally replied to him an hour before hand so it's not like it went a day without two ticks.

I've not even met this guy. We swapped numbers yesterday. I understand the not responding on Badoo was annoying however it was literally 24 hours.

Like if he's like this now how would he be like if I was actually in a relationship with him.

Puts me off dating.

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It's not like I led him on either. It was literally the very start of chatting. Not even arranged to meet up yet.

I'd just block him for real and move on, he seems very demanding and needy especially for someone you've never met!

Yes I've blocked him for real now. I'm shocked at how some people can be.

So I've woken up just now and I've received a few missed calls whilst I was asleep from private number, I've not had this before so I'm gonna presume it's clearly him. Why can't some people accept being blocked? If this carries on can I go to the Police and give them his number?

You dodged a gigantic bullet.

Why can't some people accept being blocked?

Because some men don't like women saying no to them.

Some of them appear to actually believe that women are lying dormant in their houses until a man comes along to activate them and don't understand why any of those women would turn them down and it's the woman's own fault if she ends up bitter and alone.

Someone feel entitled to a woman's attention and blocking angers them.

So, yep, you've dodged a massive bullet.

Edited for clarity

I would maybe give him the standard "we're not a good match" before blocking him, but otherwise, welcome to the world of online dating!! I wonder if it is the same for men online as it is us!!!

From what I hear, it is.

Along with future faking, love bombing, getting back with the toxic ex and ghosting.

There are a lot of decent people with genuine intentions on online dating. There are also an awful lot of people are not and who just wouldn't come into contact/get as far as chatting with someone in the real world.

There's no screening process so everyone comes into contact with them just as much as anyone else.

Never respond to people like that. I used to instantly remove anyone who I don’t know that gave me even the smallest red flag.

I see too many women playing along with crazy men. You have to learn to be brutal from the start.

So he's called me a few times today and it came up with private number so clearly calling me from a different number and hiding the number. Never known anyone to do this before who I literally swapped a few messages with on a dating app. I've had exes but not someone who I don't know. It's clearly him because it's been happening ever since I blocked him. I only know his first name, what town he's from and obviously have his number. Can I go to the police about this if this carries on? They could track down his number? Surely I can't be the only girl he's done/doing this to? It's freaking me out.

I would answer to see if it definitely was him, if so I'd calmly but firmly tell him that your keeping a record of all his harassment towards you and if he doesn't stop right now you'll be going straight to the police.

I know you say this private number must be him as it's only just started but it could just be a coincidence and be something completely unrelated, in your shoes I'd answer so I knew either way otherwise you could drive yourself mad thinking it's him ( I hope it's not but if it is report it)

I could do that and that's a good idea, however I'm thinking if I answer he may do it more, or threaten me. Or something. Maybe I'm over thinking but it's definitely been freaking me out.

He sounds like an absolute nutcase, thank god he revealed himself so early. Hopefully he’ll give up within a few days, but I’d report him to the dating site at least. I don’t want to worry you as I’m sure the chances are slim, but if he’s that unhinged, he might post your number on the internet as an act of ‘revenge’. You might want to look into changing your number.

That's why I don't want to answer so he doesn't know it's definitely me. I'll give it until next week I think. God some people are crazy. I can understand if I was actually in a relationship, but my God it was literally a few messages.

Have you got a male relative who could answer the phone for you? Seriously.

I was thinking this. Getting a man to answer. If I see a pattern in the times he calls I will have a man ready to answer with me.

It shouldn't put you off dating. It's simply how you weed off the bad eggs. Good that you have him blocked now.

Also this is very important, never give out your number to anyone until you've met and you want to keep talking to them. You can get another number if you wish to give them WhatsApp or one of those apps that have texting too or just stay on Facebook. A random crazy having your number before you've even had the chance to vet him is a recipe for harassing calls from different numbers. Keep yourself safe.

Agree with this, if he doesn’t know it’s your number for sure, this could be a good solution.

Sorry, wrong thread!