Texting

[Lollyp2]

Please read this message and tell me AIBU?

MY DH texting his female friend.
They usually have chats here and there and I have noticed my DH being touchy with her.He loves hanging out with her and her BF.

DH: "Hi my beauty, any chance you are working today?I am looking for a lift"

Reply from female friend/OW : Hi darling.No I am not working.Is everything okay?

My DH: Yes just looking for a lift.
How is your mum (the beauty) doing?

Female friend: She is doing alright thanks! Awful illness but okay.

My DH: Great that she is doing okay.
She deserves to be better.Have a nice evening.

This is my DH having a conversation with OW who I have concerns about that they are possibly having an subtle affair

Well, it's a wild guess, but they might be going swimming in the evening because they like swimming in the evening. Lots of people do it.

I have a male friend who comes swimming with me. We chat in the car, go for a swim and chat together on the way home. On a really wild evening, we stop for a hot chocolate.

Stop trying to be the cool wife. Tell him what you don't like and why you don't like it.

I don't think he will stop.
Some women he will call my beauty, others lover, others babe,.

I don't feel special as my DH is the only guy amongst our friends who fondly refers to women in these words.
His friends don't.
Especially the married ones.
They embrace a certain demeanour and tone with their words & actions.

How can I deal with him calling all these women such names and not make a big deal about it?

What's OW's partner doing/thinking while this is going on? How does he feel about DH touching her hair etc? DH sounds a creep, especially if he knows it makes you feel uncomfortable. Would he be as cool if you were like this with his mate?

Tbh I don't see anything in those messages that I'd be worried about, taking into account the Cornish endearments. His physical behaviour is something I can't judge as we can't see it, or know him.