DH delaying holiday with DS

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DH and DS have planned a boys holiday this year, just a few nights away (3 or 4 nights). DH originally discussed taking DS away in September abroad , DS was ridiculously excited. Then DH changed it to October but when it came to booking the holiday he kept making excuses, I’ll book it tomorrow or at the weekend and nothing happened. Eventually DH told DS that he’s booked a week off in November and they will go then. Not abroad but in the UK.

Yet still he’s not booked anything, DS is becoming more and more upset saying that he knows Daddy won’t book anything and he knows he will let him down. DS told my parents all about it and they said the same, they hope he won’t let him down.

DH has now mentioned going away next year now as a family member is in hospital/it’s near his Mums birthday.

I’ve even offered to organise and book it myself. AIBU? DS will be gutted. (Money is not an issue)

How old is DS?

My initial reaction is he doesn't want to parent his son alone. Has he ever spent quality one on one time with his son?

Instead of having him make all these excuses you should sit him down with a computer and get him to look and book the holiday. It is totally unfair to get his son's hopes up and continually let him down.

I agree. My son is older so looks after himself, he’s not young so doesn’t need much parenting so to speak. In our marriage it has always been me that’s organised everything, booked everything, planned, come up with ideas etc. I do worry that he’s changed his mind about taking DS away and is just coming up with excuses.

Then I would do it as a joint thing, you and your son sit down with your husband and he books it. Do not let him flake. Yes it is completely shit that you literally have to force him to do it but it is a good lesson for your son too that people should follow through on promises. Maybe even look at stuff abroad and present him with that ready to book.

Assuming this is the case, I would sit husband down and say 'right, I'm booking this right now or I'm going to be cross' but I'd say as a trade off, it's 2 nights only, to relieve some of the pressure.

That is just so unfair on your DS.
I dont know what age he is but your DH is teaching him a horrible lesson in not trusting people when they say they will do something. And that he can't rely on his own father.
I would be disgusted with my Dh for doing this and I would lose respect for him. But I wouldn't step in and book the holiday myself. This is between your DH and your DS.

Oh no, I definitely wouldn’t go ahead a book it anyway. Such a shame as I agree, it’s teaching him that he cannot rely on his Father, he’s let him down before with other stuff. I took DS away on my own earlier in the year and had a blast. We agreed that we would take him away individually this year to spend quality time 1-1, first with me then with his Dad. I’ve told DH he will have to talk to DS ASAP but I can imagine he’s going to be very upset.

Your poor DS, I actually feel a bit hateful to your husband and I don't know him.
What a horrid father.

Tell your DH to get his bloody act together and book somewhere asap! He can't keep stringing your DS along and letting him down. I'd be furious with him and make sure he knows it!

How old is your son OP?