Telling DD(7) that I'm pregnant before 12 weeks?

[Sleepinglion5]

I'm currently 7 weeks, and DM thinks it's a bad idea but I am considering telling DD that I am pregnant. I'll hold off as long as I can but I was very unwell in my pregnancy with her (constantly in and out of hospital with HG from very early on) and she's already asking questions about my sickness. I've tried passing it off as just feeling a bit funny but I can tell she's worried. DH is unsure what we should do too as she's been begging for a little brother or sister for years now so we know she'd be delighted. But God forbid something went wrong, I don't know how she'd take that.

This was a very unexpected pregnancy (as far as I knew, it probably couldn't happen again without fertility treatment) so we didn't plan for how to approach this with DD. Do I wait it out or try and explain what's going on sooner?

I told my kids at around 7 or 8 weeks for the same reason, I was so so poorly with HG and they were really worried so I thought it best to tell them. They were 12, 9 and 7 at the time. I did tell them it was early days and we had to wait til 12 weeks to make sure everything was ok. I wouldn't have wanted to have them worried for several more weeks with no explanation.

Wait it out. I’d think about DD here as first priority. Both miscarriages of mine after 10 weeks. It’s awful to say but before 12 weeks the chance of losing a pregnancy is higher.

I would wait till 16 weeks pregnant personally x