Childcare issues

[Kmward36]

My husband and I have 2 children (I’m 5 months pregnant with the 3rd). I work full time but condensed hours over 3 days. He works 30 hours over 3 days. So we work opposite each other and there is always one of us at home.

He goes on a lads holiday every year and went in September. I don’t do anything similar (out of choice) but I booked today off as annual leave for a day to myself - booked reflexology, hair etc.

youngest daughter came down with chicken pox over the weekend. She’s well but obviously can’t go to school like she normally does. Monday is husbands day so I thought that would still apply…

Woke up this morning to find he’d already left, had gone to the gym and arranged to meet a friend In town. I was fuming and had to cancel my appointment (some non refundable) and he thinks my reaction is ridiculous. He came home at 5, despite my numerous texts etc.

AIBU??

What a selfish man!

Did you both discuss this at the weekend when you knew she had chickenpox? If you both decided he would stay home and he went then he is bu.

Didn’t you talk about this on Sunday though and agree what was going to happen??

That’s the last holiday he goes on then, but book one for youself. How horribly selfish of him. Don’t put up with it.

I’d be furious. Selfish man!

If it was his day it should have been business as usual as you had appointments booked. I’m assuming he knew you had appointments and were on annual leave. He’s incredibly self centred and selfish to do that and I’d be expecting that he’d book a days annual leave to let you have a day to yourself, rebook your appointments and pay for them as they were non refundable. I’d also be booking a holiday away in future. He goes away on lads holidays and can’t even give you one day? I’d be making sure that changes if he’s going to be so selfish.

Yes we did discuss it! He knew where I was going and he knew he would have her at home (like he would during half term and any other Monday at home etc) and I asked him to let the school know in the morning and he said he would when he dropped oldest daughter off. I did say I’d look after the little one during the school run as I didn’t want her dragged around feeling a bit under the weather. Didn’t think anything else of it 🤷🏻‍♀️

So he knew you had appointments booked and he buggered off all day? I'd be bloody furious 😠 can you book yourself a nice spa weekend in a nice hotel for the weekend and leave him to have the kids for a couple of days? I think you're owed that at the very least!!

Fuck!

That's not childcare issues.

That's a massive husband issue.

He basically stole your 'day off' from you!

If you plan on staying with the bastard he needs to book a day off work asap so you can rebook your appointments and have your missed day off.

He sounds like such an arsehole, surely this isn't normal behaviour?