To think some people are fundamentally bad?

[vadypops]

Just that really .

I honestly think I’m fundamentally bad . I live through traumatic experience after experience . And I hate myself.

I’ve lost everything . And not nothing I do fixes it . I’m broken .

I believe it’s because I’m a bad person and no amount of trying will fix that .

maybe some people are just born bad …

I don't think so. I think life is unbelievably shit to some people, mostly people who don't 'deserve it' 💐

Do you have anyone offline you can talk to? 💜

I think yes some people are born just bad, but that doesn’t sound like you at all. You sound like someone who has been battered by traumatic experiences and are struggling to come up for air. I’m so sorry 😔 have you spoken to your GP about being referred to any counselling services?

You say you're fundamentally bad, but in the same breath you say you've lived through a lot of trauma.

Which is it?

If you're fundamentally bad then the trauma doesn't matter.

Of course, what you actually mean is that you feel your trauma has made you "bad".

So you're not fundamentally bad. You have lived through difficult things which have affected you.

If you want to work on it you can - you need therapy and lots of it.

I might be naive for thinking this, but genuinely bad people rarely admit or acknowledge their badness 😘.

Oh darling, I'm sure you're not a bad person. Bad people don't typically think this way or blame themselves like this. Call 111 or samaritans to get you through tonight and then the GP in the morning. Please ❤️

No love. You've had some bad times handed to you, that's not on you.
Bad people don't worry that they're bad people.

No I think you should think more about your own capacity for self-reflection. Even asking the question for me tells me you're not intrinsically a bad person, not a person in this world who hasn't made a mistake.

My ex-husband is truly a broken awful person, and he has gone way past all the checks and balances that most people have, way, way over. Far beyond any justification because of previous trauma and has no capacity to reflect, let alone change.

Bad people lack accountability and repeated self-regarding behaviour. If you consider your actions then you have capacity - don't lose that thought or what you bring to tomorrow.