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Advise please from teen parents!

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Seekingadvice186 · 14/10/2024 13:40

Posting for traffic and advise!

My 13 year old DD has been increasingly spending most of her weekends on screens. Sometimes getting to 6-7 hours each day, or more. This is on top of the 2-3 she has weekday evenings. She does 2 clubs in the week (not sports though).

We've normally kept weekends quite free and not too busy due her being busy in the week. But now she has a phone and more access to screens, it's showing that there's a bit of an issue.
She was getting quite irritable after coming off and just sitting around waiting and whining about being bored. We reduced down and set limits to 5 hours in total across all screens (mobile, laptop, consoles etc) for the weekend. Since then she's been caught lying to get more screen time. Mostly little lies but getting worse.
We've tried chatting about the importance of limiting screen time, the effects etc several times. She's had warnings and now after the most recent we have banned her from screens for a week apart from homework.
We want her to experience not having a screen at her disposal and actually go and do something with her time. She has endless toys and books, a bike to go out, park around the corner. Of course, she thinks we are being harsh but we are getting very frustrated with the lies and talking through/warnings are not working.

We have limits on screens and monitor use and this has been increased now.

So I really want to know what are your teens screen rules/schedules?
What do they do when not on screens?
Have we been too harsh on the week without screens for the lying?

Thank you!

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Seekingadvice186 · 14/10/2024 14:40

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Beamur · 14/10/2024 14:45

What is she looking at?
My DD never had limits per se, but no phone in her room overnight and we were pretty strict about what apps/platforms she was allowed.
At 13 she had access to Pinterest and WhatsApp (friends and family only, no class group chats) - she was not allowed Instagram/ticktok or Snapchat. These are absolute time hoovers.

Dramatic · 14/10/2024 14:49

I'm quite relaxed about screens, I don't mind them being on them if we're not going out on a weekend. Mine mostly watch series on Netflix or Disney but also chat to their friend on Snapchat. Quite often they'll be on call to their friends for ages. I just think it's their way of socialising nowadays and I don't want to restrict that

JaninaDuszejko · 14/10/2024 14:55

My youngest is 12 and I hide his phone, the switch, the laptop, the TV controls and the desktop keyboard so he has enforced screen free time at the weekend. Otherwise he'd be playing computer games all the time. My DDs are 15&16 and they just aren't allowed screens in their bedroom overnight but are more sensible about screens.

Seekingadvice186 · 14/10/2024 15:52

It's nothing about what she's watching or what apps she's on, it's age appropriate and we monitor that. Its more the amount of time that it can add up to!

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