Me and my ex have a 4 year olds daughter together. We’ve been apart for 2 years and he’s never bothered about Christmas even when we were together. He said he never wanted to celebrate due to past traumas. Anyway this year he’s asked to have her Christmas Day and I’ve said no. He doesn’t work and even when he did work, he never gave any maintenance. He never pays for uniform, clubs. I take to parties and attend parent evenings even though he’s aware of them of them. He sees her every other weekend but she doesn’t stay as she doesn’t want to as he went a couple of months without seeing her. So I suggested building that relationship to her to a stage where she stays again. I just don’t think he deserves it, he never has any money and I hate the thought she’d wake up to nothing Christmas morning. I have offered the evening of Christmas and if she feels comfortable she can stay and spend all day Boxing Day and he’s refused. I’m pretty sure he’s only asking as I have a partner as he always complains about my partner taking his place when he doesn’t want to and would never intrude. He also have a new girlfriend. Am I being unreasonable saying no? I have also said if he puts in the work with her this year he can absolutely have her next year.