To just want to bloody SLEEP

[Ghostbythesea]

I fucking hate co sleeping but my DD (15 months) has decided it’s a national emergency if I move an inch so I’m stuck with it. Yes I have a DH, yes he’s desperate to help because I’m at the point of smothering her but there’s nothing he can do. I know I need to sleep train and I will but fuck me right now this is awful.

Fair(except bit bout smothering). I promise this bit will pass. .. way sooner than you can imagine
Yup,does your head in , every night in(fuckin) life....
Midwife told me "enjoy your baby"
Best advice ever.love every second of your time,her company
I absolutely know how frustating this bit is. Try change your view on it, ...lookit development difference in a year. How fast it went. Love as much as you can of it, while you can.
She might even realise button pushing failed n find some other way to drive u up wall.tbey do that

I feel you! I have a 3 and an almost 2 year old that were in my bed with me until recently. They were in there own beds, until they were both poorly I put them in with me for a couple of nights and then that was it. They didn't want their own bed anymore.
But recently took the plunge and I'm so glad I did! The first 2 nights were hellish, up and down like a yo yo consoling both of them if they woke up. Once one was asleep, the other would kick off. I was surviving on no sleep. BUT after about 3 or 4 days they started to get used to the new normal and now both sleep in their rooms all night.

Also, sleep training doesn't have to be leaving them to cry. We were sitting by their beds until they settled, each night we would gradually move further and further away until they didn't need us anymore to fall asleep.

Honestly a few nights of hard work but it is totally worth it! I actually miss them in bed with me for cuddles but they will always come in my bed in the morning for a little while and we love it that way 😊

Don't get me wrong, they still have blips. Like right now I'm beside my daughters cot because was upset but it's a rare thing now.

You’re loosing the battle here so no hope of winning the war. Try changing tactics, but I wouldn’t recommend it sleep deprived. Can’t your husband book a week of work so you can have a good night sleep, then both of you tag teaming the baby in her own room? That way between you both you shouldn’t loose too much sleep and hopefully get it sorted within the week.

It’s hell, but you will get through it and in the future look back and think “the baby stage was easy” it’s not, but rose tinted glasses and all that.

Advice, if you have a second baby, keep them in their own Moses basket/cot and avoid the problem all together.

Unfortunately, sleep training with this one will very much involve leaving her to cry. Gentle methods aren’t gentle as they just frustrate her and make her upset.

It will be hellish. I’m just waiting for a couple of weeks until I have a holiday.

Tolerable - it doesn’t pass quickly at all. I have an older child and can honestly say the 0-3 period is bloody purgatory and no it has not flown by or whatever other cliches people have it drags on a sleepless daze. I won’t go back to sleep now so basically started my day at 2am. Three hours sleep, great.

Morning, I'm with you. 2.5 year old and I can't move in my own bed. All sleep training failed and she won't accept dad overnight.
You have my sympathy, it's hellish. I'll be going to work on 3 hours sleep too. Those who haven't been through it just don't get it.

I was like this with my daughter for several months and the best advice I got was "be consistent". I'd been trying everything I could think of to get her to settle in her own bed & nothing was working. When I stopped 'trying everything', picked one approach & stuck to it, it bloody worked. I opted for putting her in her cot & lying next to her on the floor, yes she cried, but eventually she got the message that I wasn't going to relent & pick her up or bring her in with me. Good luck!

@Ghostbythesea . I'm sorry,am an asshole, I really should know better. (Than keep repeating provide examples of it)
Especially cos I KNOW right here,right now is where we all at.
My experience...offers you no solace.
As I said,Amma asshole n apologise

Could you try a cot with no side bolted to your bed so you have your own space?