To think men are more brazen online?

[ColinFromHR]

So.... I'm not an innocent creature by any stretch of the imagination but hbae recently discovered a man am friends with on Instagram is not only following but posting comments eg "Yum yum" or "You're so pretty" or "Knockout" on pictures of scantily clad women on the site.

Is it weird to give me the total ick OR am I being naive as to what men might willingly put into the universe on social media?! Eg I know a lot of men can enjoy following these accounts but to actually post surely means they are expecting these pneumatic 'beauties' to reply demanding immediate relief?
I dunno so am polling you guys to see if am being a prude?!?

To a certain extent people copy other people's behaviour. Men see other men posting such comments on these posts and they think that makes it okay and join in.

Everyone is more brazen online. That's one of the big problems with the internet.

That's an interesting point of view as I see he has done that with some but on others he is all alone & it makes me feel quite queasy.....

I (female) like videos etc of men I find attractive, but I do not leave "thirst" comments.

Just, no.

It does look a bit pathetic.

And sleazy.

And if they do it where friends, acquaintances, colleagues,family etc can see it ... It really lacks discretion/circumspection.

Yeah that’s gross. No need to think too deeply about it.

Thanks HazelPlayer as its just how I behave on SM. Am cool with liking but the commenting seems diminutive and condescending somehow and also ego centric?? Urgh ...

I get random men from all over the world when I post on a male thriller authors page wanting to friend me. When I first joined Instagram had similar. So set it to private

Had some very inappropriate comments on both. I'm a granny FHS!!!

Woah Justasking111 - is that without a pic?
These women are showing their wares, showing themselves in PVC with skinny waists/feet out/low cut tops etc so it's obvious what the attraction is but it's the attempts to 'engage' (with the 'appreciative' comments) that make me baulk.

If we dismiss the possibility of them hoping, as you hilariously phrased it, these women will actually respond (though who knows if we should dismiss that) .... Then it's more a sort of outburst of appreciation/arousal.
But that, when you're not young, just seems quite immature and pathetic.

As I said, I like videos of certain guys (fitness models) but I do not leave gushing or "thirst" comments. I'm not a kid, I can refrain from that. And it would come across as "thirsty" and pathetic.

Well I dont see much difference between following these types of highly sexulised pictures of women and " liking" the pictures and commenting on them them. Any guy who does any or all of these things just views women as sex objects anyway and I would regard them as sleazy letches.

And yes of course the very nature of social media allows people to behave in the worst possible way.

Both sexes are more brazen on the internet in my opinion. The internet brings that out in people.

Especially if anonymous

Everyone is more brazen online - including the ones posting scantily clad/nude pictures for people to ogle and comment on, and the ones ogling and commenting on said pictures. Don't single one out and leave the other.

Men and women post "thirst traps" for men and women to appreciate by doing the typical internet thing such as commenting and salivating over the "thirst traps". The clue is in the name.

Well, it’s pretty clear to me that I would be highly unlikely to be friends with either the women posting photos of themselves pouting in PVC, or the kind of man who leaves ‘Yum yum’ as a comment to said photos (is this someone you were contemplating dating, OP?).

But in general, yes, people are more uninhibited on an anonymous internet site. Mike from Accounts may in real life be a diffident chap with a combover and a secret liking for Angela in HR, but on the internet mikeyloverboy1984 may have no compunction with telling PVC-clad chloe2000 he’d like to bend her over the back of his sofa.

"yum yum" 🤮

Yum yum 🤢🤢

I know right... Yum yum is properly 🤢!

And yep, have had a crush on this bloke for a while Rarebitten so feeling a bit stupid & nauseous at the recent revelations. He fully pursued me and I had previously seemed fairly normal, kind and caring when directing conversation to me. Started to go a bit cold which is why I did some research and bingo - my suspicions were spot on. 🙄

So I unfollowed several days ago as the sleaze felt too much and originally planned to say goodbye/explain but chickened out of that favoring a 'disappear' after a brief "how are you?". He then asked why I had run away (I didn't read/reply for a few days something he has absolutely done in the past himself 🙄) and seemed to be back on jokey form.

I know what you will all say to do... block or delete but I sooo want to tell him how vile it is, work out if he does have a significant other, find out why the bloody hell he pursued me in the first place and not having those answers if I do block is gonna eat me up.. it already us doing .
Ugh.

If you feel able to, I would tell him how he has put you off. We've all got the ick along with you!

Justme2023123
Thank you! I suppose I just don't want it look too judgey & I also, stupidly, will miss the attention & 'connection' I thought we had... but who knows which of these other sex account girls he has that with 🙄🤮
He is a 45 year old father of two ffs.