Is it weird if I invite her?

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Me and my next door neighbour used to work in the same place, we’ve both since left. His girlfriend moved in last year and we’re on saying hi terms - she also works for the same company but I never knew her.

I’m having a Prosecco and hot tub night (yes I’m trash before anyone says it I know) and the two women coming over know her from work (yes I worked with them too). And I borrow my neighbours water once to fill the hot tub last year (I also compensate him)

When I ask him to use his water this time should I say “let girlfriend know she’s welcome to pop over if she’s free x and y are here” - or is that weird?

No that would be a nice thing to do, provided it doesn't sound like it comes with any pressure. Might qualify with a " no worries if not" kind of thing.

I would mention it to your friends first or ask them if they mind as it will change rhe dynamic. But it sounds like a nice invitation ,although I'd probably want to meet people without the hot tub bit initially.

Of course it's not weird. Why not just ask her yourself? Worst she can do is politely decline. Hot tubs aren't for everyone, so make it clear she can just hang out with a drink and no need to get into swimwear. But I'm sure she'll think it's really nice to be invited.

I would ask your friends first. Nothing worse than someone inviting someone else without checking unless it's a big group free for all.

Side question - why don't you fill it up from your house??

I see my friends all the time. It’s usual for there to sometimes be an extra person.

I think that’s a lovely idea. You should absolutely invite her

I don’t have an outdoor tap. And my kitchen tap is the most delicate tap in the world and if it snaps off (which is has done) then it’s a nightmare. Is that ok?

It's not weird at all. In my social circle it's quite normal for the host to invite other friends and its a friendly offer that she can accept or decline.

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It's a really nice gesture.

I don't think it would be weird. I think she'll appreciate the gesture - even if she's like me and would hate to go to sit outside someone else's house in a swimsuit. Just make sure she knows that you won't be offended if she declines.