I am hoping someone else has been through this, or knows about these kinds of situations, and can advise.
After a childhood of abuse I cut my father off around 5 years ago to protect my own children.
My mother and I have continued to have some contact. The only problem being that she never calls me, doesn’t visit and shows zero interest in any of us. I visit twice or three times a year, and always have to call/instigate everything. She texts and that is it, and often just repetitive about the weather etc.
Two months ago I asked my mother if she could start making an effort even just a phone call every now and then. I have been talking to my therapist and had realised the situation was hurting me.
My mother agreed and then didn’t call. I said at the time I don’t know how she can promise me things with no intention of following through, and how does she manage to live with a man that abused us as much my father did when we were children, that it makes me so upset.
Since then she has totally stopped talking to me, effectively cut me off. I’m devastated I mean so little/nothing to her. She is able to do this without a care in the world. I could never ever do this to my children, so I don’t know how she can do this to me.
This is not the first time, she has cut me off for ten months before, and other times for a few months. It’s always for little or no reason.
Does anyone else have a mother that is capable of doing things like this?
I used to think she was a caring person, at least in comparison to my father but this just bewilders me.
The pain and sense of abandonment is so intense. I don’t know what to do.