When bad things happen all at once

[Torememberwhenlifewasbetter]

How do you cope with it? Why does it happen? Is it some sort of sign?
Everything was fine in our lives, then seemingly all at once everything went wrong over the last few months. It started with the car breaking down, but a huge amount to pay, then Dd became very ill over the summer and still is, cannot attend school at the moment. At the same time as this happening, Dh’s mum unexpectedly passed away and now his workplace may be closing and we’ll basically have no money.
Feels like we’re living in a nightmare that won’t end, Dh says he feels like we’re being punished,
We had a similar thing years ago, where so many terrible things happened at once and it nearly broke us.
Why does this happen and does this happen to others?

It never rains but it pours. Hope things get better for you soon

It's just coincidence, it's normal (but shit).

I'm sorry you are having such a shit time.

I've just had 2 years of hell and only just beginning to see the light.

Mentally I found it useful to focus only on one of my issues per day to try and move it along/problem solve. Thoughts of the other problems will creep in but push them out and think I'll deal with that later in the week.

Writing lists also helped me so I know I wouldn't loose track of my worries and could look/sort them when I felt able to.

This won't solve your problems but it helped me mentally cope with all that was going on.

Everything is hitting me at the moment.

I’m recovering from surgery
I have been unwell with some sort of flu and I was hit with a tooth infection - Luckily my antibiotics have kicked in but it was a very painful double whammy
I’m having tests on my heart this week
Money worries

I know everything always passes though.

Oh I really sympathise with you OH.

I've gone through spells like this and it really does feel as though there is a curse on you. And yet some people seem to sail through life unscathed .

I hope things improve for you. And especially that your Dd gets back her health soon.

It is really shit but it does seem to happen like that!

Many will have had worse than me but 2024 has been my worst year since I had cancer nearly 20 years ago!

I’ve had an awful year at work, nearly had a breakdown and handed in my resignation. I need to feel in control so that felt like I’d turned a corner but then my brother died suddenly so our whole lives turned upside down😢

It is really shit when this happens but I do believe it’s transitory and things will get better 💐

I'm sorry for your troubles. It happens that way sometimes, but its just coincidence. No one is dishing out punishments. I've had several times in my life when I've felt that way. What tends to happen is there are a couple of big thing together, illness/bereavement and then the smaller things like car repairs/broken boilers that you'd normally just absorb take on a higher significance as 'part of it'. I hope your DD recovers quickly and that your DHs job either doesn't go, or he finds an alternative soon.

I lost my 22 year old son in an accident in 2022 and in 2023 we went through something else traumatic which hasn't ended yet and I thought things were looking up in February when my partner proposed to me but 15 days later he unexpectedly died so yeah it does feel like it hits you all at once, I am only now (in the past month or so) starting to feel positive again and I hope that's my lot for now and the universe let's me have a bit of happiness for a bit and I hope everyone else going through shit at the moment comes through whatever it is they are going through x

Take one day at a time.

I saw a meme today: 'me on the phone to God asking for the joy and blessings package for 2025 rather than the trials and tribulations package of 2024'. That's how I feel. I was accused once by a therapist of catastrophizing, but I said how can it be catastrophizing when the worst thing not only happens, but it was worse than I ever could have imagined as a worst case scenario. They had no answer to that. So sorry you're suffering OP.

@Ihopeithinkiknow I'm sorry for your losses.

I feel like I've been shat on by life, slowly and surely life seems to get worse and worse, it never used to be like this.
Although on the surface I appear to have lots compared to other people, I can't get over how I feel life has been punching me in the face the last ten years.

Not sure what I can do about it, most the events are and were totally out of my hands. I dread the future as I can't see things changing, and I know there's likely worse changing and I've got no resilience left.

But as pp said, one day at a time