To sometimes feel my kids are odd according to here?

[Aremykidsweird]

MN …

✔️ After a day at nursery / preschool / school they are too exhausted to do anything. All they want to do is chill.

❌ absolutely not, not tired in the slightest and will happily keep going

✔️ Just do a picnic tea! They love it and it’s easier for you!

❌ Cheese trampled into the floor, crisps eaten and everything else ignored, cherry tomatoes on furniture, I’ll stick to my home made cottage pie!

✔️ get your toddlers to help with the chores!

❌ no. Never ever ever again.

(this is lighthearted before anyone starts. But seriously, am I the only one who finds the MN way is not really rooted in realism?)

My son comes home buzzing after nursery, I’d love for him to chill but he generally seems over stimulated.

Do love a picnic on the sofa though and he’s really helpful with chores, he genuinely will clean the bottom cupboards while I do the top and when I vacuum he takes out his mini Dyson to help! He also loves crafting and baking… so he’s nearly a proper MN child 🤣

@Ilovelurchers

I didn't know that about phonics and dyslexia. My child's primary school hated that she did not use phonics and learnt by word recognition. They refused to let her read school books at the level she was capable of.

I have 5 and they are all so different and fit a mixture of what you've said. One of my daughters will indeed be buzzing and ready to have a filled afternoon as well as going out a ton on the weekend. Her twin is more into relaxing and doing homework and calling a friend or something. With the picnic tea, it depends how they're feeling with what gets eaten!! But I just have to be strict as one of them will only eat crisps if I do that.

My youngest is 6 so not a toddler but she has always helped me with the chores and still loves to while when I tried to ever get my 9 year old to help, she would very happily empty the dust pan on top of herself after sweeping anything up 😁

Your kids aren't odd because every single child is different.

I feel the same way.

I see so many posts from people who clearly just have very different children to me. Sentences like "we just stayed at home and chilled" - my kids don't do that.

Yup had a thread on here about something and posters pointed out that doing clubs most day after school plus some extra work is too much and she’ll be tired. I thought about it and at the time I thought “oh yes, she might be getting tired” and no, thats not actually true, she doesn’t really get tired. She’s fallen asleep in the car precisely 3 times in her entire life. High energy person. Always been on the low end of sleep needs.

No to the picnic tea, it would just be awful (I tried this in an actual coffee shop, just odds and sods, plenty of food, fruit, nuts a sandwich and she complained to Dh that she hadn’t had lunch, so definitely expects a proper meal). Also made a mess in there too (I cleaned up after us)

No, she doesn’t “do” cleaning

No she doesn’t like colouring or imaginative play, loathes lego much to DH’s disappointment.

Also an eater of baked goods rather than a maker

No to a quiet day pottering at home, she needs a decent walk to be happy (i.e. not bouncing off the walls)

Trampoline is also in daily use over here. Straight after school likes to bounce around for a while.

It’s the conviction with which people declare that children need rest. It’s just not always true.

Yes I saw a recipe today for kids that don't like veggies and it was making a sauce to hide the veggies but my kid doesn't like sauce 😂😂🙂😫😫

2 sons here, 2 completely different experiences.

Ds1 was not the chill, craft-doing, jigsaw-enjoying kind of boy. Tried baking- he lasted 5 minutes, then rampaged off around the house, spreading flour everywhere. Christmas crafts- I had an entire table set up with glitter, paper chains, glue and so on- he managed 15 minutes that time, then rampaged off around the house, spreading glitter... He was the type of boy who needed a lot of vigorous walks to relax. (and is still similar now- always at the gym, or running marathons 'for fun')

Ds2, on the other hand- loves all the crafts and baking and chilling. I have to force him out to Do Exercise.

This is my DD too!

Yep I am fascinated by these people who have 'weekends just chilling at home'. Two very active DCs here; I also can't bear the thought of staying in all weekend. I can't sleep properly if I haven't done much physical activity. We also never do crafting as neither of them has ever shown the slightest bit of interest in it.

Every kid is different, my 4yo has just started reception and does clubs 4 nights a week, she LOVES them and if they're not on for a week she's quite upset. However, she does love a chill day at home and will happily watch a film or play with her toys without it being total carnage. My older ones are teens now but they were much the same when they were younger. Oh and we love a picky tea!

This.

Me and DS are chillers, he comes home from school shattered and does just chill most of the evening. Complains if he has to come on a dog walk 😅 hes very sociable at school & is non stop

Where as DD plays out every single night or has her friend round but is quiet at school

Once my toddler woke up in the night, found a paddling pool, dragged it into his room and filled it up with water, carried in a bowl from the bathroom tap. We found him cackling and splashing around on his bedroom floor.

I obviously need to think more carefully about how to harness the nighttime wandering into productive housework…

Whenever I see a thread on here about what teenage boys life I have to check if mine are broken.

They are seemingly into none of the stuff that every other teenage boy on the planet likes.