Entitled odd neighbours

[Lesleyann2413]

I accidentally posted in the wrong place so here goes again. I moved from a private rental due to landlord selling into a council property that seemed to be a nice area but neighbours on each side don’t like me.

we are quiet it’s just myself and 11 year old daughter but she got her period and has had a couple of melt downs. She had one at 8.30 and the neighbour came and threatened to punch my lips off and reverse into my car if I didn’t shut my kid up. They have a 3 year old and are constantly shouting and screaming. He called the police who did well fare check when we were sleeping and had no issues. However I have him on my door bell cam and they asked me to send it. They’ve said this is a public order offence and he will be charged so now I am getting a bit scared as he is huge. The neighbour on the other side appears to be an alcoholic and has accused me of being a police woman or social worker. They’ve told me everyone hates me and they’ve started a Facebook group about me.

we don’t do anything wrong my child is with her father 3 nights a week and I am in bed for 9.30 for my busy job. Apparently I can’t be moved due housing crisis and I’m on the swap site but not getting anywhere ever though I have decorated my home to a good standard. Anyone else been dealing with this level of crazy?

These people sound crazy. Nothing you can do that you're not doing already ie call police, ring camera etc
Just ignore them, if they've set up a FB group who cares. Just style it out until you get a swap

Just keep to yourself but document every interaction/video stuff carefully. It might help in the future.

Thank you, they all have cameras everywhere and appear completely crazy to me. They are banging on my daughter’s wall when she is silencing listening to music with headphones on. Starting a street Facebook is beyond ridiculous. There’s nothing to say, she leaves at 8am gets back at 6pm and her child occasionally makes a bit of noise. Unreal.

Hi, Have you talked to the council or housing association. Where i live we have neighbourhood coaches who can help with these issues.

Oh god I've lived that nightmare except I had an 8 month old at the time that was teething and she was going to burn us alive in our sleep she however had parties 4-5 nights a week where the drum and bass would make the walls vibrate and my daughter couldn't sleep and I was exhausted all the time
sadly I tried speaking to her I tried the council and the police she got served a warning letter but nothing really changed until after 2 years when I was so stressed and exhausted I couldn't hear myself think and I lost it I picked up a hammer that I had on the side and hit the wall with it repeatedly then I went outside and hit the adjoining gate with it and I told her next time it would be her f*ing skull and that I was sick of being bullied by her and I wasn't standing for it anymore I went a bit crazy tbh but that's the highlights but she was nice as anything after and the music 4-5 nights a week stopped ! I was still very relieved when we managed to move after 4 years though sorry your going through this keep on and on at the council and collect any evidence of recordings etc good luck !

Omg that's awful. I wouldn't answer the door to them anymore. I'd call the police and report his threatening behaviour. Could you save up and move out? I wouldn't want to stay there long term.

If the neighbours are also social housing tenants then you need to advise them about the issues as well. Keep all the evidence of their behaviour, keep a diary, and tell the manager what is happening. Often it takes a while for them to build a case of antisocial behaviour but there is action that can be taken. And tell the police as well, I know you have done that, but keep telling them about any further issues.
I used to be a housing officer for a local authority, and it's building the case that is important. A constant problem has to be proved for action to take place.

You can be moved soecially if the Police charge him and with tte ring door evidence , plus try to find details of this face book site.Go and speak to tte council again.If they dont help speak to citizens advice or shelter, shelter woukd be my first choice.
It may mean going back to emergency accommodation so maybe they meant you cant be move directly into another property, but you should reapply to the housing list and maybe see if you can get a direct offer

Could you potentially rent privately again?

I think this is the reality of some streets where the council own most of the properties still. I remember a child taking a shit in our front garden once and a six year old who used to hang around the street smoking cigarettes.

I'm not saying all council tenants are like this, but there do seem to be problem streets.

If your neighbour is a social housing tenant and the police take action against him his own tenancy could be at risk. It’s difficult to know if that will make him moderate his behaviour, or escalate it as he ( completely irrationally) blames you for his situation.
I echo others saying to keep evidence. You may be able to persuade the council to give your move a higher priority.

Where on earth was that implied?!?

@CosyLemur Leaving aside the fact that your comment is certainly deliberately goady, I'd suggest that subsequent events would have proved her right, if so.

Honestly, where can we put all these cunts? They need somewhere to live where they're not ruining everyone else's lives and can just be aggressive with other aggressive idiots. An idiot village?

She is, though.

How bad were her melt downs?

I've lived here 15 years and the kids kick off either side but I wouldn't go round.

Ignore them and keep reporting to the police and go to the council too.
They sound like wastes of spaces who are intimidated by you because you are a decent human being.

Holland did once suggest this, about 10 years ago.

www.theguardian.com/world/shortcuts/2012/dec/04/liberal-amsterdam-plans-scum-villages

I would send the footage and keep requesting a move. Keep records of what’s happening and the affect it’s having on you both and ignore him if he comes to the door.
You shouldn’t have to do this but make your daughter aware she needs to keep it down otherwise the thug will be at the door.
Taking paracetamol as soon as her period starts is one way to get on top of the pain and keep it you for first day or two - it is awful having periods at that age and she’s had a lot of change.

Chester Zoo? Along with their Frankenstein dogs.

I have a crazy neighbour she thinks she owns the damn street. I've filed a police complaint over a month ago which has been logged but no sign of a police officer to actually discuss whats been going on. My 18year old has actually moved out because of this horrible neigbour. She hears the slightest noise from outside and she instantly comes knocking and insisting that its my kids making a racket. This woman has made numerous threats to smash my face in. Yeah my kids can be a little noisy but she literally says im telling my kids to bang walls to piss her off on purpose. This woman has actually came out making threats to have her family watch me go out to work to come tie me up and take me off in a van where nobody's gonna find me, she harasses my visitors and films them on her phone having a go at them for no reason. My daughter ended up leaving after this crazy cow came out to her calling her a vile little slag and she was was saying stuff to her boyfriend saying my daughters cheating and threatened to smack my daughter up the mouth. Police literally don't seem to care. They are aware of all of this abusive behaviour and have done nothing its ridiculous honestly. Police wonder why nobody has any faith when they do nothing to help. My neighbour is literally getting away with thinking she can do what she likes and behaving like she has some authorities within the street

I had neighbours like this before we moved. Their children would be screaming the house down at 4am in the morning but if mine made a peep after 7pm they were banging the door down and making violent threats. They found my business page on Facebook and harassed me through there!

Some people are just nuts and the only solution is to move. Look for a private rental if you have to. People will say you're mad to give up a council house but you can't put a price on peace of mind. My current house is nearly double the rent I paid in my old place but I sleep soundly.

Go to the council with your crime ref number and they should move you on the like for like transfer list
my friend had similar but this time was a man with a knife at the door and they moved her and her kids

You are not doing anything wrong. Your daughter will have a shout or scream her hormones are bonkers at the moment.
Now the neighbour who told you that everyone hates you, is jealous. So just ignore her .have you got any friends or a bug brother who could call to her house and tell her to keep away. As for the threatening one keep a diary .time date and write, everything that is said / done. I hope you have someone who you can offload all this too.
Please try to be busy at home. Do not chat or speak with the aggressive ones.
Treat them like your a detective and you have to note everything. Any damage photo it. Obviously if he threatens you. Ring 999 as its timed and recorded. I have had a very similar experience. So please look after you and your daughter. Take care hugs xxx

Ooh OP, I sympathise.

But 'Entitled' and 'Odd' are not the words I'd use to describe your neighbours. How about

Brutish, thick, violent, moronic,unhinged, bullying...just for starters?