dh and his family have not really spoken to each other for perhaps 40 years.
His mother( ..and this may be leading to me being a bit anxious re this situation - maybe wrongly) was a very manipulative woman who openly told lies .. and when questioned , did things like threaten suicide. She told me I was fat ( i was size ten for reference) .. odd)
He has had little contact over the years with his brother who is now widowed but has a large number of grandchildren who live near to him . About a 4 hour drive away from us .
He has over the last 2 years booked a cottage in the next street to our home - then announced by text ( with no contact whatsoever between times) that he is coming. One time he did not announce it , but just turned up on the doorstep .
My dh is a bit confused as he has not seen his brother for all these years and the brother just now seems to have adopted him and has talked about living here .
He rarely left his home town from what he says and has lived in the same house since he was allocated it - ie he seems to have a set way of life .
He does not really say much when he comes and has not responded to any texts from dh when he is back at his home- he only texts or replies when he is telling us he is renting for a weekend in the next street to us .
they go to the pub and dh tries his best to talk - its all very light and short .
dh feels a bit uneasy - as do I - but we have not got a clue why ..
We are not meaning to be unkind - we understand he may want to link to his brother after all these years .. get that .. but he does not say or indicate that or talk about anything meaningful- it’s just chat like you would have with someone you dont know on a bus or something .
He visits , chats , then does not return messages between visits. Say like we said are you back ok etc via text - we just dont get reply until his next one informimg us that he is coming..