To be absolutely sick of DS non stop allergies

[Purrdy]

They are driving me literally insane.
DS 13 asthmatic spends his whole entire life doing huge shouting type massive gargantuan sneezes, over and over and over again, they are non stop. Imagine a big dog barking and barking non stop - that's what his sneezing is like and they're that loud too. And non stop sniffing up snot sniff sniff sniff sniff, his nose is like a tap of never ending cattarh. Jesus, the arguments we have about his nose. "Freddy blow your nose!!!!" "No" "BLOW YOUR NOSE!!!" "No" "Freddy your constant sniffing and snorting is driving everyone in the house mad - BLOW YOUR NOSE". "Nooooo!" "Freddy BLOW YOUR NOSE!". He finally blows his nose, blows and blows and blows, as much as he blows it out the snot instantaneously refills, he blows, snot refills, he blows, snot refills. Immediately goes back to sneezing and sniffing and snorting and says "See, this is why I don't blow my nose, there's no point whatsoever, it's pouring out of my nose straight after no matter how much I blow it". This goes on all day, all night. Kids at school turn round at their desks or nudge him and say "Mate, blow your nose". Sitting round the table for dinner is appalling, my other DC shout "Ughh, it's putting us off our food! He's sneezing over our food! (Even though he covers his mouth and nose as much as he can with his elbow or a hankie) his snot is so loud it's disgusting!" He sits there looking dejected at the table.
I am at my wits end.
It goes on all summer because of pollen. Now it's October so there's no pollen but it's still the same level of relentless 100 decibel repetitive sneezing and gallons of catarrh pouring in to his nose. It will go on all winter too, just like it has the past 2 winters. Then all spring. It is year round every year.
We're dusting everywhere, cleaning the floors non stop, pulling out his bed non stop to clean under it, I've removed curtains, got rid of carpet and rugs, bought hypoallergenic mattress covers/pillow covers/duvet, boil wash at 90 degrees his bedding every few days, OMG the work it's creating is exhausting me on top of everything else I have to do. Mometasone and beconase nasal sprays don't work at all. He takes 180mg Fexofenadine daily which is an adult dose for treating hives - you'd think if it treats hives in an adult then it would sort out a 13 year olds non stop sneezing and running cattarh....but no, it doesn't touch it. GP said he can't have any higher dose than that.
I just don't know what to do.
It's making him really depressed and it's sheer HELL to live with.
It's driving the whole family insane but me especially as I spend most time with him.
Can anyone at all give me any help or experience?!

Did you not read the OP's post? Beconase and mometasone are steroids!
I'd echo the PP - ENT referral & also try eliminating dairy - it reduces the congestion and that's likely causing the sneezing as it's so irritant to the nasal passages. Good luck!

Suppressing sneezes is actually really bad for you. Please do not ask your son to do this, the poor child is suffering with his health on a daily basis, being low level bullied for it and getting in the ear at home for being annoying, he doesn't need to add possibly rupturing an eardrum or damaging blood vessels into the mix.

You need to find a naturopathic practitioner who offers NAET treatment.

He obviously needs to be seen by a specialist - have you organised that instead moaning about it?

For now, I would buy a Nettie pot nasal rinse kit and get him to do that morning and night and see if that makes any difference

My DP had very bad hay fever as a child. He swears by dried wheatgrass, you can buy the powder online and mix it into drinks to make it easier to swallow.
Worth a try.

Me too - fellow sufferer here.

Poor kid. Make sure he’s got constant supply of pocket tissues or hankie so he can sneeze into them. And boxes of tissues around the house. Hope some allergy testing uncovers the problem and he can get some medical relief from it.

@Purrdy that fenfox stuff made me so much worse, I stopped taking any antihistamines for a while to get them out of my system and went back to half a loratadine a day. Much better! Perhaps you could ask the GP if he could have a couple of weeks to reset and then try a different tablet at minimum dose? This time of year it is generally mould and spores. Too much dusting might also be an issue if dust is floating around?

Has he tried applying vaseline to the inside & outside of his nostrils? I believe ii prevents dust and pollen from entering. Might help?

I'm very allergic to lots of things with bad asthma and it's horrible. Managed to control it with fexofenadine which for me worked much better than other previous antihistamines (which made me drowsy).

However I found the thing that really sets it off is mould which the antihistamines don't work against and often exacerbates allergies for many people. Can you check your house is damp/mould free? I once lived with a boyfriend and had the worst allergies of my life at his, turned out there was a whole wall of mould hidden behind his wardrobe that we didn't realise till we moved house... so pulling furniture put and checking behind it. Especially in his bedroom.

Do you dust and hoover regularly and wash things like throws and soft furnishing covers? Double check all those things in his room and make sure he has anti allergy (non feather) bedding and a mattress which isn't decades old. You could try an air purifier in his room as well if he's that bad.

I'm not saying your cleaning isn't up to scratch btw just saying it takes double effort when you have allergies...

Anyway start there and maybe also take him back to the doctor as doesn't sound like his symptoms are under control.

He obviously needs far more specialist expertise than he’s currently getting. Poor kid, my allergies are nowhere near as bad as his sound but when they are acting up it’s fucking miserable and exhausting just getting through the day.

I get that it’s frustrating for you too but he’s having a
far far harder time than you are so have a bit of goddamn sympathy.

Poor kid. Get him an ENT referral asap. He needs his mums sympathy not annoyance.

Needs looking into, it's not right to be like this. Definitely go back to the doctor.
In the meantime some decent sized HEPA air purifiers might help. One for his bedroom and one for the main living space at least. They have other health benefits too (reduce impact of air pollution and reduce spread of airborne infections). Amazon basics do some well prices ones, also check out Smart Air. Avoid ones with ionisers or UV light.
Also if he would consider them a decent filtering mask rated ffp2 or FFP3 would help him. Or if not, try AER nasal filters.
Also try nasal guard gel - the science on that seems a bit thin but it's worth a try. I use it.
Good luck 🍀

You sound awful op

he is the one going through this

And you are shouting at him and effectively bullying him…instead of getting proper help for him

"An Introduction to Tissues and Handkerchiefs" by @Mmhmmn

Revolutionary.

God love him, this is absolutely exhausting and if you find it irritating just imagine how he feels.
However will someone so allergic, here's a few things that help

Wooden floors, blinds instead of curtains
Frequent bed changes
Pillow under the mattress to sleep
Less dairy and colours/ additives can be removed, skittles and frozen slushies for example used to drive me over edge
Frequent hoovering of all areas
Nasal sprays didn't work for me, so back to old fashioned Vicks in bowl of hot water with towel over head
Some nasal salt washes can be good
Visit to a good asthmatic doctor and allergist

I've got this, Asthma too. Mine was diagnosed as Allergic Rhinitis, basically something making me sneeze, which in turn makes me blow my nose. Then is just continues. I have been prescribed Fluticasone propionate which does the trick. A blast up each nostril each morning.