Is he cheating?

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My partner told me he didn’t have work all week and was only working Friday and Saturday that week. Then along comes Thursday he told me he is working and I said to him that he told me he was only working Friday and Saturday and he said he didn’t say that, which he definitely did. Anyway all day I had a horrible gut feeling that he was with another woman and I couldn’t shake it, I never usually feel like this when he is at work. Anyway I have just looked at his location history and it turns out he was at the pub all day. He even messaged me while he was “at work” and told me what he was doing at work. Why would he do this and lie to me like this? It hurts so much as we have a baby together and he’s lying to me. Aibu to think he is cheating?

Not necessarily cheating, but somethings amiss, isn't it?

Yes definitely is. He has lied to me so many times I just can’t trust him at all.

Then why on earth are you with him? Desperation? Makes no sense

Because we have a baby together and I love him.. it’s not as easy as just ending everything!

Did the repeated lying only start after the baby was born?

Im sorry OP but hasn't got any respect for you if he repeatedly lies to you. And he goes off to the pub all day with goodness knows who. I can't think why you love him if that's how he behaves towards you.
Why are you putting up with this? You deserve so much better. And it's not good for your baby growing up seeing a relationship like this.

Well he's either lied to you because he's cheating or he's lied to you because he wanted a day away from you and at the pub. Don't tell him you know he's lying - instead do some snooping. He will have his guards down if he thinks you don't suspect anything.

How can you love someone you don't trust at all?

What happened when he came home from ‘work’ on Thursday? Was he absolutely shitfaced after spending all day at the pub?
what a prick.
how old’s the baby?

Having a child with a man like that is a reason to leave, not a reason to stay.
I spent far too long with my ex, it was a horrible, abusive relationship but I convinced myself that loving him was enough.
Eventually I realised it wasn’t, yes being alone was hard at first but I am so happy now.

Get out whilst your baby is young, my middle DC is now having therapy due to witnessing his behaviour and seeing the way he treated me, I wish I had left him years earlier when I saw the first signs.

he wasn’t smelling of drink or acting drunk at all which is making me think he was maybe meeting someone there and maybe bought lunch and just had a few beers? Our baby is 9 months old

I also spent 5 years in an abusive relationship and when I got out my life was amazing. Then I met my current partner and thought he was amazing, but the little lies started and now it seems like the lies are getting bigger and bigger. I feel like such an idiot being with another narcissist, I promised myself I would never put up with any shit from a man again. I know I need to leave.

Yes this is exactly what I’m doing, acting completely normal and hope I can catch him out with something he can’t deny. It’s so hard acting like nothing is wrong.

Might be cheating, but also might be that he wanted a day off on his own. Shouldn’t have lied though.

Sounds toxic.
He could be cheating. He could be selfish and avoiding family life. But he is a liar.