Help! How to not be scared?

[Scaredsilly3]

Just for a bit of context- we recently moved to a new family home (I’m in my early 20s and still live at home with my family). We’ve been here for a few months and not had any bother at all. I really like the house. But recently something just feels off, I don’t know how else to explain it.

Im usually up later than everyone else, and a few weeks ago about 1am I suddenly felt very aware that I was being watched, even though I was myself. Something just felt strange and uneasy. I had a fleeting thought in my head along the lines of ‘imagine if there was a ghost in the room, if there’s someone hear make a sound!!’ but it was very much a lighthearted jokey thought. But as soon as it popped into my head, a picture frame sort of shifted and made a loud rattle. I felt a bit uneasy but just went to bed. There’s been a few other weird things like that over the last few weeks. Tonight when I was about to go to bed I shut the door to the living room/kitchen/dining room etc and was in the hallway and as I shut the door it honestly felt like someone shut it over from the other side of it, as in was pushing it. Then i would have sworn I heard footsteps from in the kitchen. I was just standing in the hall thinking about how weird it was and feeling a bit freaked out then I heard one of the doors in the dining room slammed shut. I just legged it to my room and shut my bedroom door haha

it all sounds daft but it’s happened a lot over the last weeks and it just all feels quite freaky and uneasy with me

There wasn’t any sad history or backstory to the house, we just bought it from an older lady who went into a home. And I don’t believe in ghosts or things like that- but I do believe you can freak yourself out and spook yourself especially if you’re tired and stressed (I’m both at the moment as I’m sitting exams!)

really not sure what I’m even asking for here but just wondered if anyone has experienced similar and could offer advice or how to move past this? I’m sure there’s a rational explanation behind it all (eg the bumps were probably the wind etc) but it’s still a bit freaky and a bit uneasy

It always takes time to settle in a new house. Your mind is a powerful thing too, so now you're thinking about it you're freaking yourself out with normal noises you probably wouldn't have even noticed before.

Apparently if you look in a mirror for several minutes straight you start to see things in it. Literally your mind gets bored of the same unchanging image coming in, and starts inventing things. With exam stress, the unfamiliar house, it being so quiet and still at this time of night, your mind is going to do what minds do. This probably sounds silly but "forgive" it if you can and crack on. Hope you get some sleep soon.

I think there’s probably just a draft somewhere, around one of the windows or doors. As you’ve only moved recently you don’t know the full ins and outs of the house. I get similar with a couple of my doors as I have cat flaps on either side of the house which creates a sort of vacuum effect as the door is shut. If I shut the kitchen door on a windy day it will rattle occasionally as though someone’s walking around upstairs. It’s just a quirk of the house and something I had to get used to at the beginning, but now I don’t give it a second thought. If you don’t believe in ghosts then your rational mind will stop you being scared of these things as long as you don’t think about them too much until you get used to the house xx

“It’s not the dead you should be scared of. It’s the living” is something I always tell myself if I feel freaked out by ghost/paranormal stories etc.

Houses can make noises. Pipes, heating, floors, humming from appliances etc. loads of things!!

It’s crazy how much the mind plays tricks on itself too once you’ve already convinced yourself there’s something creepy.

Changes in air pressure. Doors shut easier, or even by themselves if a window in the house is open. Also, if a picture is finely balanced, drafts can rattle them, or a large truck travelling nearby causing vibration.
For a person who doesn't believe in ghosts, you are telling yourself a lot of stories about them.

Get a sage smudge stick and smudge your house, it helps remove negative energy, see if that helps at all.