I am married to a divorced man with 4 grown up children. The whole family was torn apart a year ago when he lent money to one son because he said he was going bankrupt otherwise. Hardly anyone speaks to each other because they felt he was being unduly favoured. It is his money he's lending. I found out today that the son has asked for further lending. Husband has kept this a secret because of all the previous uproar. I see this as a betrayal of trust in relation to me and that it is wrong to keep lending and lending and lending in this manner particularly as he is not that well. Should I pretend I know nothing - as in Not my Circus Not my Monkeys or say something ?