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Kids heels

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Sosueme1 · 11/10/2024 20:04

My husband and I got into a big argument today. Things have been brewing the last 2 weeks and kinda came to a head today over something silly. We were both off work and our 4 yr old girl was at school, so we went out for Lunch and I decided to show him some accessories I had bought for our daughters Halloween costume (a princess dress). She has a Halloween school disco at school they will be there a half day . I wanted her to wear the princess dress to this and bought her a pink cape, gloves , a crown and these kids shoes with a tiny heel. When I showed him what I bought online he started saying she couldn’t wear heels to school, I explained it was just for a Halloween party but he got all annoyed over it and started an argument. We were supposed to go get our groceries after but when we got the the car he said I’m not putting up with your attitude and drove home , we drove home in silence. Once we got home I got out of the car and he drove off with out a word. I text him then saying are u for real? he then phoned and we argued for a bit but when he got home that was it , we were ok again … tonight we were supposed to go out to a beer festival and stay the night at an air b&b with friends but decided against it earlier in the week as our girl has a swimming lesson early in the morning and he has things to do around the house . I told him earlier in the week to go on ahead without me along with his friends if he wanted I don’t mind, but he said no, today then one of his friends was driving to the beer festival so he told me he was going to go along with him and come home early. He asked me to drive him to his friends house so I said that’s no problem.
Later he came up to me and asked me what jacket he should wear, I said the one he was wearing was fine and I said sure you’re only going for a while anyways.. he then said in an awful tone “That’s not what I asked you I asked what jacket should I wear, I never said anything about how long I was going for” I obviously then reacted to his tone and said something like don’t speak to me like that!!!! As it was in front of our daughter. ! He then stormed downstairs saying that he wasn’t going now as it wasn’t worth going as he would end up paying for it later with my mood! (I didn’t mind him going) this wound me up and I got annoyed at him over this and he stormed off again . I was then watching tv with my daughter and he came and sat down and didn’t say anything, next min a car came and picked him up and he said to my daughter bye love you see you later . ( he obvs got his friend to come pick him up to go to the beer festival) I’m left here now fuming !

Kids heels
OP posts:
TentEntWenTyfOur · 11/10/2024 21:53

Sosueme1 · 11/10/2024 21:15

This was for @TentEntWenTyfOur Hi thanks for not totally slating me, obviously with hindsight the shoes are too high for a 4 year old, that’s why I asked on here for others opinion. i guess I thought it was only for 3 hours and the shoes would be fine along with tights… I have tried to be gender neutral since she was born but she is just naturally drawn to all things girly. Last year she went dressed as Wednesday Adams to the Halloween party and most of the other girls in her class were princesses or fairies with a few exceptions..
and yeah maybe you’re right it’s not all about the shoes ..
first time posting on mums yet and probably last 🫣😬😬

Edited

I knew it wasn't really about the shoes. Do stick around though, and don't take the vipers to heart. There's a lot of good advice on MN if you look in the right place. 🙂

By the way, those shoes would be better with socks - less likely to get blisters.

MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 11/10/2024 21:54

Heels (at any age) are really bad for you but especially harmful for young children

MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 11/10/2024 21:55

A 4 yr old needs something she can run around in.

FranceIsWhereItsAt · 11/10/2024 22:08

I see the knives are really out tonight people!!!

OP, please don't be put off posting on MN, just because the vast majority have chosen to slate you for choosing pretty shoes for your child. People could have been a LOT nicer, and just said that they think they're too high/not suitable, without all the nastiness.

Anyway, I really don't think your post is about the shoes, more about the way your DH is treating you right now, as you actually started the thread by saying things have basically not been right for a couple of weeks, and blew up over the shoes.

What is your relationship like normally OP? Is this argumentative atmosphere something new in your relationship? If so, has something in particular triggered it? Please ignore all the stuff about the shoes, and come back with more info about what the REAL problem is, then maybe we can help.

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