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Another lonely Friday night

21 replies

Hernamewaslola22 · 11/10/2024 19:44

I'm sick of them but I don't know what else to do but sit in alone. I only have a few friends and they are all in relationships and/or kids so they do coupley or family things. Just feel lonely so much recently.

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Hernamewaslola22 · 11/10/2024 19:47

I think it's made worse that I'll be on my own all weekend too.

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Pyjamatimenow · 11/10/2024 19:48

The only thing to do is make plans. Join groups and meet ups, go on dates if you want to. Keep busy

changedlife · 11/10/2024 19:49

No one is going to knock on your door... you are going to have to be brave and venture out there. The obvious are On line dating but that's pretty hard work.. I would suggest finding your local adult education and signing up for something that interests you .. and find some like minded people that way.

Firenzeflower · 11/10/2024 19:50

Can you join some groups? Walking group? Volunteer maybe? What about a running club?

LushLemonTart · 11/10/2024 19:52

I agree with joining groups. There are so many out there.

BabyCloud · 11/10/2024 19:53

I usually do exactly the same as my child isn’t here from 5pm.
I keep meaning to go do some Friday evening shopping or go for a solo cinema trip but I never get around to it. I could plan with friends in advance if I really wanted to but I don’t know why I don’t.

Have you made any plans for the weekend? You should take yourself out and treat yourself if you’re able to.

Hernamewaslola22 · 11/10/2024 20:06

How do you find groups?

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Hernamewaslola22 · 11/10/2024 20:07

BabyCloud · 11/10/2024 19:53

I usually do exactly the same as my child isn’t here from 5pm.
I keep meaning to go do some Friday evening shopping or go for a solo cinema trip but I never get around to it. I could plan with friends in advance if I really wanted to but I don’t know why I don’t.

Have you made any plans for the weekend? You should take yourself out and treat yourself if you’re able to.

What kind of treats? I can't afford to do anything expensive but I could do something.

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Pandasnacks · 11/10/2024 20:08

Join a group like Pilates maybe? Not too taxing and can be fairly sociable. Even if you find a walking group or something for a Saturday it could make Friday nights a little easier. Do you have any pets?

MargaretBetts · 11/10/2024 20:19

I'm happily single, my kids have really active social lives, my social life is my own.

I rarely go out on Friday evening through choice really, I am knackered after the working week. I do a yoga class at 6pm usually, then come home and make something to eat, might have a glass of wine if I am not picking up kids later on.

There are lots of things you can do, meetup is good if there is one near you. I go to a painting class once a week on a weeknight and one saturday a month. If I'm not seeing anyone I go to a local NT place for a walk and coffee/sandwich to get me out of the house. Might pop into a friendly neighbour or invite them round for a cup of tea. Visit my parents once a month (takes a while as the drive can be 90 mins in traffic). I also go to a meditation group now and then. I try to do a sport once a week which takes half a day, I don't always manage it but it is something I can just do if I am at a loose end.

A treat can be anything you want it to be, a walk into town to buy a candle and bar of chocolate/can of mixed G&T could cost as little as a fiver if you want it to. One of those foot mask things or a face mask could be as little as £1.

You're right, it is difficult sometimes when all of your friends are partnered up. You could just try one little thing each weekend and see if it makes a difference to how you feel.

Whothefuckdoesthat · 11/10/2024 22:28

What do you enjoy doing?

Exercising/laying sports? Crafts/Art? Languages? Film? If you want a chin wag while earning some cash, could you find a job in a local pub? One that has regulars so you get to know people.

loulouljh · 11/10/2024 22:38

Exercise classes. Walking groups. Cycling groups. Book club. Swimming. Museum with coffee and cake. Garden centre. Meet a friend. Get a dog. Volunteer. Library. Make a small plan and build from there......

Trailblazin · 11/10/2024 22:47

Join a walking group. Treat yourself to a. Ice takeaway, film and wine on a Friday! I remember when I was single feeling lonely sometimes at the weekend so I’d buy myself a cheap bunch of flowers or have a takeaway, force myself to go out and do something at least one of the days and make an effort to see friends / family when I could.

User364837 · 11/10/2024 22:50

I think you’re right that it makes a difference if you have plans the rest of the weekend.
Friday evenings are more tricky but should be easier to find something regular to go to in a Saturday whether it’s a exercise group, activity group, or whatever

MereDintofPandiculation · 11/10/2024 23:10

Hernamewaslola22 · 11/10/2024 20:06

How do you find groups?

Ask on the local Facebook group is one way.

Noseybookworm · 11/10/2024 23:24

Hernamewaslola22 · 11/10/2024 20:06

How do you find groups?

Local Facebook groups are good for finding out about what's going on in your local area. Have a look in your local library too, they often have a notice board with lots of information about local groups.

Mathsbabe · 11/10/2024 23:47

Choirs are a great place to meet people, and fun too

Getitwright · 11/10/2024 23:52

What about a bit of volunteering? Think of something you are really interested in, then try and find out if there’s an interest group that you could join/ volunteer. I did 13 years as a garden volunteer with English Heritage. National Trust? Conservation? Make sure it’s something you enjoy doing, and you will soon make some new friends

BabyCloud · 12/10/2024 09:50

Hernamewaslola22 · 11/10/2024 20:07

What kind of treats? I can't afford to do anything expensive but I could do something.

I do things like an eyebrow appointment or get my nails done when I can but being completely honest I usually spend the weekend going to see my parents.

librathroughandthrough · 12/10/2024 09:53

Hernamewaslola22 · 11/10/2024 20:06

How do you find groups?

OP, you need to decide what hobbies you would like to pursue and then research what’s available in your local area.

parietal · 12/10/2024 14:50

To find groups, look on notice boards in local bookstores or shops or community centres or libraries. Look online for "meet-ups" or search on Eventbrite for things in your area. Buy local newspapers or ask around in the hairdressers or and local community you already have. The local council probably also have a website of volunteering opportunities. It may take a bit of research to find the right thing but it is worth it.

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