To wonder if there is a way round this?

[BeaversAndCubs]

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I was a scout as a child and loved it, so naturally DS's name has been down for Beavers since he was a toddler.

DS will be 6 in December, so he should be due to start Beavers after Christmas, but we have heard nothing. Meanwhile, children in his year who joined the waiting list after him have been contacted and offered places for after Christmas. I have tried emailing the Beavers group, but the admin person sent a generic email about how new joiners should expect to be on the waiting list for at least 6 months (DS has been on the list for years), and then didn't respond again.

DS had a friend who had social difficulties, and the parents wanted me to send DS to the same school as this boy so that this boy would have a friend. They became very unfriendly when I didn't agree to this, and began spreading rumors about DS. I still have no clue what the rumours are, but people I have met who know these parents have been a bit frosty with me.

It turns out that the admin person for this Beavers group is friends with this boy's parents, so, given that everyone but DS is being contacted and offered a space, I am wondering if DS is being left out because of what happened with these parents.

Is there anything I should do so that DS can join the group? He was really looking forward to starting Beavers with his friends, and I would happily volunteer as a parent helper. It's the only Beavers group in our area, so he either goes to this one or doesn't do Beavers at all.

Have you tried contacting them and innocently chocking his name hasn’t been missed off as you know for a fact that people added to the list after have been offered places and you know their very fair system is to allocate based on when they joined the list?

I’d be concerned that even if you did manage to get him a place, the person who’s blocking him would not treat him well, if they’re a leader, or would influence the leaders in their perception of him. But it’s really unfair on your son, if that’s the case.

If you’re nonetheless keen for him to join, do you know who the troop leader is? Is there any way you can get a quiet word with them and say you’re pretty sure your DS has slipped through the cracks, but you would hate for the admin person to think you’re criticizing them so you don’t want to push back on it with them?

If you registered him years before he was eligible I'd assume his name has accidentally dropped off the list, hopefully itl now be back on the list.

I still have the email confirming that he was put on the waiting list, and the person who put him on all that time ago was the same admin person. The thing is, this is just the admin person, I am told that the leaders are lovely, and I would be happy to go along with him and volunteer. His teachers always have nice things to say about him at parents evening, and he's popular with the other kids at his school, so if I can just get him in I think he'd be okay