Please tell me this is crazy ...

[motormouth99]

I have overactive bladder. This means foods, drinks and cosmetics eg bubble bath can make me need to pee,a hell of a lot. Due to this I have toilet anxiety which means I go at every opportunity, even when I don't need to go, so I know I'm "safe" if that makes sense. Places/situations/events where I have previously needed to pee so much that's it been beyond embarrassing, also cause me anxiety (association and therefore anxiety and therefore the need to pee a lot).

Now to the crazy part..I don't wear earrings much. The few times I've worn them, I've needed to pee. A lot. This has been in places where I'm trapped eg car, theatre. I now associate wearing earrings with the need to pee. A lot. In places I can't get out to do so. I'm paranoid that there is some weird connection between my bladder and my ears (in the same way feet can be mapped to body parts.

I would love to start wearing earrings again. But I'm now afraid to/associate with needing to pee.

Tell me this is all in my head !

It's all in your head!!!!!

Haha maybe there is some weird acupressure point in our ears that makes us wee but I seriously doubt it. Practise wearing earrings and home, do something to keep busy and you'll forget about them.

It’s in your head. (And the foot mapping thing is also absolute pseudoscientific nonsense, by the way).

But it isn’t insignificant just because it’s in your head. Our minds can have powerful effects on our bodies. It’s possible that some kind of therapy might help you with this, if you can afford it? Otherwise, I agree with PP - wear earrings while you’re at home, doing normal boring things like housework or cooking. You may get the urge to pee the first few times, but you should gradually just get used to wearing them and stop associating them with needing to pee.

Also, have you tried wearing Tena pads or something similar when you go out? They’re pretty effective and might make you feel a bit less anxious.