To get cross when a conversation is repeated

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So yesterday our neighbours pet got pts. I text my OH to tell him as we know her well and knew he'd been unwell. We had a brief text conversation about it.

He also missed his stop on the train home. We had a brief conversation about it over text.

Last night I get in from work. He repeats the conversation about the pet. And also the conversation about his journey home

I swear half the conversations I have in this house I'm replying with 'I know', 'you said earlier'

He hasn't forgotten he's told me/talked to me about it

He's just doing it again.....

I’d find it frustrating if it was in person conversations being repeated multiple times without modification, but a text convo being revisited when you’re together in person seems totally normal to me. Particularly with the pet being pts I’d actually find it odd if it wasn’t brought up again. It’s a display of empathy for the friend more than an exchange of information.

I always feel like texts is just exchange of info, and that when I see the person we'll talk properly about it, with the layers and nuances of face to face conversation. Now I'm wondering if actually I'm just repeating things and everyone is like you OP!

This wouldn't bother me if it was originally a text conversation.

We often discuss things we've briefly discussed via text, when we see each other.

I think it’s a bizarre thing to be irritated by and actually it comes across as a bit controlling to want to police conversation in this way.

it’s inevitable that people will sometimes forget they’ve already told somebody something. I can understand if someone bangs on endlessly on a pet topic but casually repeating something because you don’t keep a tally of everything that’s said is hardly a crime.

I find someone saying “you’ve already told me this” far ruder and more annoying than wanting to discuss something in person that you’ve mentioned via text.

Not bizarre at all. A family member has Alzheimer's and this was the first sign.
Even knowing someone has a condition, it can become extremely tiring.

@Gwenhwyfar

Right but Alzheimer’s is a whole different ballgame from this which is just the OP has repeated something once.

How is he repeating it? If he says, ‘so sad about x’s dog-I was really sad to hear it’, that’s very different to, ‘I’ve got some really sad news…’

Is he telling you stuff you’ve told him, like it’s his news?!

I would just reply, ‘who do you think told you that?!’

Yes it's very annoying and I say 'yes, you've told me' They're fine to repeat if they like but why would they. Worse than this however, I know someone who tells me stories of things that happened. AND I WAS THERE! I must be invisible to them. It happens multiple times a week and I find it so bizarre.

When it first started I also just thought my family member was getting older...

I find it really odd that you'd not even speak about it when he got home? I'll often have text conversations with people that we'll then revisit in person in more depth