To want to run away

[265IceCream]

From my gorgeous 6 week old boy...just when I thought things were getting easier, he's been really fussy and colicky the last 3 evenings. It's hell. He's great in the day and he does eventually sleep but fuck me these nights are long. The crying is just unbearable. Everyone kept telling me having a baby is hard but I had no idea. Wow. It's relentless.

I just want to get in my car and drive and never come back 😫

Hugs. I struggled bad with the crying too

You're still in the fourth trimester.
6 weeks is the peak of newborn fussiness. It is hard, and nothing really prepares you for it, but its just a short time in his life and although it's feels slow, like really slow, it still goes by quick.

It sounds too like you could use something for yourself. Could you get Audible playing something you can really get into listening and enjoying when you're walking around with him. When he's not crying over it, of course

He might like it, too

At 6 weeks they get like this..hang on in there it gets easier

Hey, OP, someone reported what I said here, a misunderstanding. I hope it wasn't you, that it was you that thought I was being mean ?

(I said, baby might like it too- the report/ temporary ban was because someone thought I was saying that in response to your post title- but it wasn't- I'd never say that and all I wish for you is not mean spirits but the best intentions, I've been through having a little colicky baby, and I know it can be so hard--- I was saying, baby might like it too- an Audible story ! As an add- on to my just previous post !

Anyway, I hope you got a little nap in the ned, and I just want you to know they grow so fast and this'll pass soon x

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Oh OP! It's hard isn't it :( What I used to do when mine was little, was pop him in the car seat and go for a drive. It made me feel free as he would sleep in the car and I could play music and just experience some peace! Sometimes I'd stop at a drive through for a coffee and park up (engine on though, or he'd wake up!!) and just enjoy my coffee and the sense of 'me time'.

No other advice I'm afraid but I do remember the early days of DS1 and how utterly exhausting it is. Nothing can really prepare you! I have two, so that indicates it does get better enough to consider having another!! Plus mine are now secondary age and it's sooooo much easier :)! and my god it's been worth it. I adore my boys soooo much! Honestly, it does get easier as they get older - but I do miss the baby cuddles! Try and savour those positive moments because it will all go so fast!!

(What I've noticed with my older boy (who was my colicky, crying every 5 seconds and never sleep baby!!) is that he continued to be very vocal and high energy through pre school and primary school. We channelled it through sport and keeping him very active, but he was hardish work from baby through to year 7. As he got older though, year 5/6/7 he calmed right down and from yr8 he's been pretty quite, calm and into geeky things :) The younger years were tough. My younger boy was a dream baby!! Silent, slept well etc... he's gone the other way!! He was always well behaved and quiet but quite reserved. Now he's 11 and is sooo chatty and out there!! It's like my babies have reversed their temperaments as they've got older!!)

Thanks all! The evening fussiness is awful. I feel fine now but in the moment it's so hard, my whole body seizes up from the stress.I can deal with lack of sleep and he's so cute in the day, giving me lots of smiles and I love him so much, it's just the very painful, contorted, clearly painful cry for 2-3-4 hours at a time when we're tired anyway that gets to me!

@IceCreamIsTheDream yeah we really want a second one as we're both only children with no extended family other than our aging parents and now I'm doubting if I can do it! Good to hear it from the other side! We're also the first of our friendship group to have a baby so I don't have many people in real life who have been through this.

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Thank you, no, I didn't report you, it takes a while to come back and reply between cries, sleeps and nappy changes 😅