Bad break up success stories

FFairysteps11 · 2024-10-10T22:34:39+00:00

I've read so many threads about people struggling with breakups or staying in relationships with people they shouldn't, and I've recently been assigned to single status so I'm wondering; have any of you been through a bad breakup to come out the other side absolutely shining? Any stories about being your best you and seeing your ex again in public and feeling so damn proud of yourself? Would love to hear them and hopefully I could add my success story one day!

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FFairysteps11 · 10/10/2024 23:36

Edited to hopefully make more sense!

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StrongFemaleCharacter · 11/10/2024 00:44

Yes. I was completely blindsided when my exH cheated on me then turned into a complete monster as we divorced. It completely broke me. Many friends disappeared but others crawled out of the woodwork and gave me so much support. As I moved on and gained confidence I decided to apply for a new job, which I got and am earning more than I ever have - I even received an award for my work recently.
Unexpectedly the one time I bumped into him was when I nipped into the supermarket all done up as I was on my way to meet some friends. I usually look shit so that was good timing! And my lovely DP is asleep in bed while I MN. It'll take time but it will happen and you will be stronger than you ever thought possible.

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FFairysteps11 · 11/10/2024 00:49

StrongFemaleCharacter · 11/10/2024 00:44

Yes. I was completely blindsided when my exH cheated on me then turned into a complete monster as we divorced. It completely broke me. Many friends disappeared but others crawled out of the woodwork and gave me so much support. As I moved on and gained confidence I decided to apply for a new job, which I got and am earning more than I ever have - I even received an award for my work recently.
Unexpectedly the one time I bumped into him was when I nipped into the supermarket all done up as I was on my way to meet some friends. I usually look shit so that was good timing! And my lovely DP is asleep in bed while I MN. It'll take time but it will happen and you will be stronger than you ever thought possible.

Well done on your award! You have a booming success story, you have been broken and got through it all, with bells on!
I'm sure all these men do end up regretting their actions, being cheated on is my issue too. I would love to look absolute fire when I'm new vonfident me and then he can see me and how far I've come.
I felt it was about time I stopped searching for bad break ups and try and find a bit of light at the end of the tunnel! You never know, it may even give someone else the courage to look forward 😊

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BoxOfCats · 11/10/2024 00:54

Ex came home one day and announced he'd met someone else and was moving out that day. We had been together 10 years, owned a house, pets etc so talk about having the rug pulled out from under me!

I was pretty shocked initially and couldn't eat properly for weeks. Got my shit together, phoned a mortgage advisor and worked out I could buy him out of the house. Got a lodger, so now have a rental income, and also fully own the house now so am now actually better off given property prices are increasing where I live. Career has gone from strength to strength and I'm now earning a lot more than when ex and I were together. And to top it all off, I met a lovely man online dating, we have been together 18 months and he truly is ten times the man my ex was.

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FFairysteps11 · 11/10/2024 08:04

BoxOfCats · 11/10/2024 00:54

Ex came home one day and announced he'd met someone else and was moving out that day. We had been together 10 years, owned a house, pets etc so talk about having the rug pulled out from under me!

I was pretty shocked initially and couldn't eat properly for weeks. Got my shit together, phoned a mortgage advisor and worked out I could buy him out of the house. Got a lodger, so now have a rental income, and also fully own the house now so am now actually better off given property prices are increasing where I live. Career has gone from strength to strength and I'm now earning a lot more than when ex and I were together. And to top it all off, I met a lovely man online dating, we have been together 18 months and he truly is ten times the man my ex was.

Why do people do this?! It's astounds me. You have done loads better than you were doing with your ex, well done! I really hope you continue doing well in your job and your relationship goes strength to strength x

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GameOfJones · 11/10/2024 08:12

I discovered my ex had been cheating on my with multiple different women. Pretty much from the start of our relationship, so for years. He got aggressive when I confronted him and pushed me over. I was really scared he was going to badly hurt me. I lived with him at the time but it was his house so I had to leave with anything I could pack in a couple of suitcases.

I was absolutely lost and called a friend who immediately drove 3 hours to come and pick me up. I will never forget their kindness and that they helped me in a real hour of need.

I ended up quitting my job and completely relocating to a new area as I wanted a completely fresh start. It was scary at the time but was the best decision I ever made. I got a new job, made friends through that and joined some hobby groups and slowly built a new network for myself. Then a couple of years later I met my wonderful DH. We've been together for 14 years now, have two DDs, a great house and work is good. I'm very happy and look back and think thank god I got out of that relationship with my ex. My life is all the better for it.

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FFairysteps11 · 11/10/2024 08:47

GameOfJones · 11/10/2024 08:12

I discovered my ex had been cheating on my with multiple different women. Pretty much from the start of our relationship, so for years. He got aggressive when I confronted him and pushed me over. I was really scared he was going to badly hurt me. I lived with him at the time but it was his house so I had to leave with anything I could pack in a couple of suitcases.

I was absolutely lost and called a friend who immediately drove 3 hours to come and pick me up. I will never forget their kindness and that they helped me in a real hour of need.

I ended up quitting my job and completely relocating to a new area as I wanted a completely fresh start. It was scary at the time but was the best decision I ever made. I got a new job, made friends through that and joined some hobby groups and slowly built a new network for myself. Then a couple of years later I met my wonderful DH. We've been together for 14 years now, have two DDs, a great house and work is good. I'm very happy and look back and think thank god I got out of that relationship with my ex. My life is all the better for it.

It must be a really good feeling to think back and just know that you're better off out of it! I'm hoping ro be in that place one day.
I'm sorry he was so nasty though, you've been through it and definitely deserve your happy ending!

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