Feeling lost

[Syan7]

I am meant to be meeting friends for a reunion of sorts on Sunday. We used to be full time ravers but since having kids that has fallen to the wayside for obvious reasons. I no longer smoke, have never really drank but used to do recreational drugs when partying and this would be expected on Sunday BUT I have since learned I have a job interview on Monday which I thought was on Wednesday until a few hours ago. The dilemma isn’t should I go out or not because obviously I shouldn’t but the issue is that I don’t want the job anymore than I really want to go out. My contract ends in March which is why I am looking. I originally liked the look of the role until I spoke with the line manager and she seems like she would be up my ass daily. I am over trying to be some career woman. I want another baby hopefully next year (I’m almost 41) so also feel under pressure to get a job soon. I’m just feeling confused and lost. I still need to be earning a decent wage in the meanwhile (45k+). I am not the person that I used to be. Either personally or professionally yet not sure who this new person is either? I have a 4 year old and 5 year old sons.
My life is hectic as it is. I also have a small part time business which earns very little but pays off some debt I got into a few years ago. Will I regret not going to the interview? What makes it worse is that I love my current job! I even won an award for it a few weeks ago. It is externally funded and the company can’t afford to keep me from their own budget. Feeling a bit sorry for myself and time is not on my side. Have other mums reached a cross roads in their lives where they’re not prepared to make certain sacrifices or pretend to be something they’re not?? I feel so boring for not being fussed about the reunion. Even my other half will roll his eyes if I decide to stay at home. I really have changed. A lot.

I take it that there are several people involved in the reunion so you can’t just reschedule it and do both the interview and the party?

As you also said that the question isn’t should you go out, but more should you do the interview- as you need a job I would attend the interview, because it doesn’t commit you to taking the job should you be offered it. It does give you a chance to meet the team and maybe see if the woman you are concerned about is really that bad. You absolutely can turn it down if the vibe is wrong, but you won’t give a bad impression for dropping out of the interview a day before. Does that make sense?

If you had decided not to interview when you thought it was Wednesday then I wouldn't go. If you had still planned to attend then it sounds like you need the job so I'd be scaling back the reunion.

Thank you both for taking time to read my post and comment. I can’t rearrange the reunion as it’s not my party but I’m ok with that. I was still unsure about the interview even when I thought it was on Wednesday but I had more time to think about it. Hearing both comments I think it makes sense about the interview. Part of my concern is that the job is potentially earmarked for someone else. I work in local authority and it’s very common for that to happen. I have to give a presentation over teams rather than in person which has also put me off as I question why they wouldn’t do an in person interview for a serious role (it’s also important for me to meet them to) so I put all of this effort in but as you say it’s a chance to make an good impression and I hate pulling out of things once I’ve committed. I’m going to have to suck it up and do the interview I think! If by miracle I am offered the job then as you say I can then seriously consider if it’s right for me. Thank you!

Oh God I hate that!! It's such a waste of everyone's time if they have already decided and are just going through the motions. Hopefully that's not the case, you wow them, and then are in the brilliant position of being able to throw it back in their faces should you wish to 😂

Can you reschedule the interview? Life does get in the way for everyone sometimes. A night out isn't really a good reason but you could bend the truth a little.

I did think of doing something like that but I’ve pulled out of the party and will spend the day prepping for the interview tomorrow. I’ll see what I can pull out of the bag. I’m not going to spend 2/3 days on it like I normally would! Enough to make a good impression hopefully. I really think the job is meant for someone else