To wonder "who does that and why?!"

[MargoLivebetter]

I have just received a friend request on FB from the woman who my long-term boyfriend cheated on me with. This is from a very, very long time ago and is water so far under the bridge, that's it has gone out to sea, evaporated and fallen as rain several hundred times over. I haven't thought of him or her for 30+ years.

I was never friends with this woman. I barely knew her. I held my BF of the time fully responsible. But why would she be wanting to be friends with me on FB? I won't be accepting her offer, but can anyone explain why someone would do that????!!!!!!

I'd accept her friend request so that she gets the notification and shits herself that her snooping error has been exposed. And then after a very short time i would delete and block 😂

Possibly accidental, but anyway, you don't have to accept it. Just decline it or press ignore.

After all this time she might not even realise? I had a very awkward situation years ago with something like this: A DH of a friend of my sister's - so someone I know well enough in that we've attended various parties/dinners with but not someone I know particularly well personally - put something on facebook that was vaguelly amusing. Someone had commented under it, and I put another comment under that one agreeing along lines of "Dave has it right - you're totall ymissing a trick here". or whatever.

The next thing, "Dave" is sending me a message going, "Wow, MsMarch, I can't believe it's you, how are you..."

I had managed to completely miss that "Dave" was a man I knew at uni who had almost date raped me after an alcohol fueled night. He had, the next day, realised his behaviour was totally not ok, and had apologised, but of course I'd never had anything to do with him ever again. When I had responded, 20 odd years later to this other post, I hadn't clocked that it was the same person. It was a fairly bog standard name, "Dave Jones" and the man with the original post was not someone I'd ever have known could have known this man.

I actually felt bad about it. He knew he'd behaved badly, he'd apologised, I'd like to think it taught him a lesson, and he probably thought that I had forgiven him when I posted on that post....

There was a glitch recently on FB where if you looked at someone's profile it might send a friend request. Pretty sure they fixed it now but it was definitely happening.

Sounds nuts! The only logical explanation is that it was an accidental friend request. Unless she has a completely forgotten that she was screwing your boyfriend all those years ago. Either way, avoid!

Had a similar experience with Friends Reunited. A wife of an ex fiance contacted me. Bit of a surprise but she told me how lucky I was to have dumped him. He had become an abusive husband locked in the house. Locked the bathroom so she couldn't use the loo. Insisted he had to be in the bathroom when she showered or used the loo. Cut her off from her family and friends. It was horrible to read but I guess she needed to vent to someone who maybe new her husband. We have been in contact now And then since. Not often. He has turned her daughter against her and her daughter is now married to a controlling abusive man. Such is life.

I suspect she was having a snoop and accidentally sent you a friend request! My ex partner did this with my now husband, when we were dating!! My husband blocked and removed the request. I wouldn't dwell on it, just remove the request (and block if you want).

The woman my ex husband had a 3 year on and off affair with friend requested me and contacted me wanting to talk to me. Turned out it was a very positive thing. I found out she was unaware he was married for the first 2 years and only after I’d found out he was cheating with yet another woman (not her!) and chucked him out had he hoovered her back up and she had stupidly carried on. He mentally abused her in every way that he had abused me (narcissistic cycle of abuse) and so comparing notes helped us both to really learn that it was him, not us and started our recovery.

this happened to me too, my hubby made my mate pregnant, we had only been married a few months and i had just had his baby. she was ringing me up saying she met a nice guy, i would like him and all about them shagging etc. then i find out she is pregnant, and through the village grapevine find out it is my hubby! so i kick him out and tell him to go live with her. she had the nerve to wheel new baby over to me at the following year village carnival saying "oh we have something in common, both babies from him!" i had to walk away or i would have slapped her face! 30 yrs later she friend requests me on FB! her son and my daughter did meet up, (being half siblings)and the lad is is a nice chap (unlike the dad) ironically, a few yrs later he turned up at my door with massive bunch of flowers (after never paying penny maintenance , or xmas/birthday card for his kid) i was with someone new and also had new baby, begging for me to take him back because .... wait for it...... he got in from work found her shagging his mate on living room floor! ha ha ha ha! made my day hearing that taste of his own medicine, as you can imagine door then slammed in his face while i was laughing head off!