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Please help me see things clearly - aibu??????

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Thomcat · 23/04/2008 10:16

We have 3 children together, youngest is 6 and a half months.
I'm breastfeeding her and on maternity leave. She sometimes goes through phases where she goes through the night but it's not a given.

Last night she woke at midnight which is unusual. I fed her and went to put her down as usual but she wasn't happy about it. I picked her back up and basically spent the following 2 hours trying to settle her. Tried everything, nothing was working and I was getting stressed out.

So I woke DP up and said 'ohhh please help me, I can't get her to settle, it's been 2 hours and I need you to see if you can get her down"

He made a pathetic half hearted attempt and draped her over his chest while lying down. She just cried more.

At this point I was pissed off, with him and getting frustrated. He was annoyed at being awake.

At one point I put her in her cot to see if she'd cry herself out and fall asleep. He said "Go and sort the f'ing baby out will you'. I was furious. Still am.

He thinks it's wrong that he was woken up when he has work today and i'm on maternity leave.

I think that in 6 months to got off lightly with child number 3 till now is good going and sometimes, work or no work, I need a bit of help/support, whether I'm on maternity leave or not.

So, does he have a valid point or is he being unfair / unreasonable / unrealistic?

OP posts:
Thomcat · 23/04/2008 22:28

Cheers Twig xx

PS - your DH sounds lovely

OP posts:
Dottydot · 23/04/2008 22:34

The nights are the worst - and by 6 months you're both probably seriously in sleep debt...

I have to admit by this stage, dp and I had come to an agreement - I'd breastfeed him before going to bed at 10pm-ish and then if he woke up before 2am, dp would get up and give ds2 a bottle/change him/get him to sleep and if it was after 2am I'd breastfeed him etc.

I used to hear him crying and pray it was 1.59am or earlier

Trying times... fingers crossed your dd will be sleeping through every night like a little angel in no time at all

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