I want to change my life!

[SunflowerSeason]

I’m 27, and I have found myself back in the habit of being extremely lazy.

I wake up, I scroll on my phone until as late as possible. I wake up, I go to work.
I come back from work, I lie in bed on my phone until my boyfriend comes home (we live with parents at the moment which is why I go upstairs).

I’m sick of it, but I can’t get out of the habit. It’s an awful one. I want to do different things (go for walks, go for a long shower, make smoothies) but I just do NOT have the energy.

My self esteem is also in the bin, I talk about myself so negatively. I frequently get upset about why I don’t look as perfect as other people.

Enough is enough and I want to change my life completely.

Have any of you guys adopted any habits or small changes that helped, or changed the way you viewed the world?? Id love to know!

I’ve recently taken up cross stitch and do that in front of the telly of an evening instead of scrolling. My screen time data says my phone use is about half what it was. I’ve also joined the local climbing centre and am meeting a friend there about once a week. 33yo, 3 kids under 6. It’s hard to keep motivation up. Just putting my baby down and heading for climbing. Can’t be bothered but will be glad when I get there and have a good chat with friend.

Don’t go home and whatever you do don’t sit down 😂 go straight from work to the gym or a Pilates class.

You said you live with parents- do you share the cooking and the chores? What about on the weekends?

Comparison is the thief of joy and social media isn’t real. Maybe setting a limit on your phone and unfollowing aspirational accounts might help?

Good luck

No advice but im feeling similar except I have my own home and a teenager. She’s out living her own life so I feel a bit lost and in a rut at the moment so I end up sat scrolling on my phone in the evenings.

There’s been times when I have stayed off my phone and I had so much more motivation and energy but it’s also keeps my sane talking to my friends.

Do you like reading books? I never go on my phone if I'm reading (or writing).

First maybe get a blood test at the doctors to rule out anything medical. You may be deficient in Vit D or iron?

How is your sleep, exercise, diet? Try and sort those out and cut back on carbs and sugar and UPFs if you eat a lot of those.

Could you be depressed perhaps? Depression can manifest as a complete lack of interest in doing things that bring you pleasure rather than sadness.

I think living at home with your parents is bound to have an affect on your energy levels too. You are not completely in control of your own space. Psychologically it can be a bit disempowering.

Is there any way at all you could move to a house share with people your own age? Even if it’s a grotty house share at least you would have more autonomy?

Do you need to change your job, your bf, or travel? Do you have anything to look forward to outside of work?

Other than all of the above, perhaps try habit stacking so that you take sports clothes to work and go straight to the park or gym from there? Or do the reverse in the morning?

Join a volunteering group to help others?

Do something creative like learning to bake or paint or sew or grow things?

Good luck 💐