Is bf losing interest?

[Fuzzybear88]

Together 2 years. When we met he was just crazy about me. Used to say things about how attracted to me he was, how I was incredible, etc etc.

he’s still lovely now but I feel he’s more cutesy and just repeats things I say. So more just like “awww me too” “i adore you too” “I am very excited about X” but in a cutesy tone rather than it sounding genuine?

He used to call me on the way home from work each day because he was so excited to talk to me.

Today, I called to ask what time he will be home and he said he was just finishing up at work and will call me in 5.
Half an hour later I text him with a “?” He calls me back and says “I’m so sorry, I was trying to decide whether to get fuel, and I was distracted by that, and I just forgot”

He’s never forgot before. I thought if he really wanted to talk to me, it’d be on his mind.

Could he be losing interest?

Maybe he’s just busy at work. You can’t expect someone to fawn all over you 24/7.

He was literally driving in silence when he normally calls me (and is normally excited about it!)

Most relationships start with lots of excitement, constant calls and messages, and just being totally into each other. It's perfectly normal for things to settle down at the 2 year point, it doesn't mean he's losing interest.

He sounds normal to me now. I don’t think I’ve had a boyfriend be cutesy with me since I was a teenager.

I also couldn't be arsed to call someone on the way to seeing them. Perfectly normal behaviour. I think that you need to chill out!

His behaviour sounds normal to me, but if it's a change to you, just ask him

People don't sustain the first flush of intense love over a long term relationship. It's totally unsustainable.

It doesn't necessarily mean he is losing interest but rather that love changes how it manifests over time.

What a lot of people mistakenly do now is not understand that love will never be fireworks for a lifetime and bin each other too early.

Romantic love is something that happens only in the early stages, when you're supposed to get pregnant and then you're bonded through the rough boring times regardless. It's just our design.

Really! Is this your first time in a serious relationship? Do your parents still text each other all the time, do all the lovely dovey things they did when they first met.

As a man if you complained to me I didn't text you at 5, just once, I'd be thinking about how controlling you are, how needy, or how suffocating you are, given what else you do

I think it's just the natural settling in to a committed relationship where you're comfortable with each other and don't need to be told all the time how amazing you are, how you can't wait to see each other etc. As long as he's treating you well with love and respect, I wouldn't be worried.

Oh gosh… so I told him my worries last night and how I feel, and he reassured me that nothing is wrong.

I woke up this morning and he’s left me a note on the kitchen counter “I promise I love you more every day. I am 100% completely in this!
have a lovely day xxx”

You were all right, I was completely wrong 😂🥺

You sound high maintenance and quite needy. That level of adoration and excitement isn’t sustainable or realistic.

Why don’t you ask him. He could be suffering with stress about something at work. He could be dealing with anxiety or depression. It’s really hard to tell. The relationship isn’t going to stay the same forever and I think your expectations might be a tad unrealistic.

I’m sorry but you need to grow up, you expect him to be ‘excited’ about ringing you for the rest of your life. Everyone is intense early in a relationship but eventually normal life happens and it’s not all excited giddiness every day I’m afraid

@Fuzzybear88 do you realise how high maintenance you sound? You are gonna lose this guy if you don't calm down a bit.

I'm glad everything is ok OP but you sound very insecure and needy . Is this your first long term relationship or have you been badly hurt in the past?.
Your boyfriend has reassured you this time but no one can keep up the same type of enthusiasm and constant declarations of love they have in the first flush of love. Long term relationships evolve into something more comfortable. If you are constantly needy and worried about losing him you might just lose him

Relationships change over time. I think needing constant reassurance after 2 years is a bit odd. I would suggest you chill out or you might find you ruin a perfectly good relationship and drive a perfectly good partner away.

Yeah, exactly this. You cannot continue the way you are in an early relationship, where you're just completely devoted to each other all the time and want to spend as much time with each other/talking to each other as possible. It's great at the start, but at some point you have to come back to reality and settle into a normal, adult, sustainable relationship with that person.

It just sounds like he's reached the end of the honeymoon period before you have - which is fine. You will adapt.

I think relationships just change over time. I used to text my husband early dating and living together all through the day... now it would annoy the fuck out of me.

I love him more than ever but I've just matured and changed

The first 18 months are called the Honeymoon period for a reason. Your boyfriend sounds lovely.

Excited to call you? the text ? is beyond rude, I'd not call you at all after that.
You sound suffocating , he's probably left that note to avoid anymore drama.

The trouble is now you have shown him how needy you are. This may not work in your favour long term.

Honeymoon periods can wear off.

Do you have a job? Sounds very needy to me.

Gently op, you sound very needy. Having such a needy partner would give drive me up the wall.
Have a look at the long term relationships you know (your parents etc), do they constantly show the behaviour you expect from him? I highly doubt it.

Just what happens when the initial spark has worn off. I’d find it a bit fake if someone kept telling me I was ‘incredible’!