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Excited to move out, but past experiences haunting me!

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yellowandpink77 · 09/10/2024 09:07

My partner and I have been together nearly 2 years, and recently decided to move in together. We have put a deposit down to rent a property and we are both really excited.
We’ve just started packing and writing shopping lists etc, and it’s all becoming real!

There’s one thing that scares me though - I was in this position a few years ago. I was packing to move in with my ex (who already had a house) and we were doing the exact same thing. He was prepping the house, I was packing, we were both shopping and super excited.
However, after a week of me moving in, he decided he hadn’t been happy for a while and broke up with me, and asked me to move out.

My current boyfriend has given me no reason to doubt him and he seems super excited, and we haven’t had problems like me and my ex did. I feel much more secure with him. However, even just packing is giving me anxiety that the same thing will happen and I was none the wiser last time.

How do I get this out of my head and just enjoy the process?

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DuckTales1234 · 09/10/2024 09:11

Last time it was his house so you weren't secured. This time the house is joint since you both put a deposit in so he can't kick you out if he changes his mind, think like that Wink

Guavafish1 · 09/10/2024 09:15

Your anxiety is normal in these circumstances.

Your current partner is not your ex and he did not do this to you.

I would discuss it with him and hopefully he will provide you with some reassurance.

i find men are very unreliable and you should never put your full trust in them! I alway have a plan A/B/C!

Alway protect yourself from them and have a back up plan!

Good luck with the move

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