to not want to have a doorstep chat when I'm in the middle of doing the bedtime story?

[emkana]

I've posted about this before - friend of mine always has 30 mins to kill between end of her exercise class and collecting her dd from Brownies - and she always chooses to come to my place which I HATE - it's always at about 7.15 pm when I'm f*ing BUSY

and there's a pub just across the road
and it was a lovely balmy evening
and you can sit outside there

why can't she just go and get herself a drink!!!!!!!!!

And I said "i'm halfway through a chapter with dd" and she still carried on and on and on

dont answer door.

DON'T ANSWER THE DOOR

You are not obliged to answer your own front door, or answer your phone.

They belong to you and are for your convenience, no one elses.

If she asks why you didn't answer say 'I was putting my daughter to bed'

it always amazes me how many people in my life do not realise we have children and thus are likely to be spending the hours of 6-8 feeding, bathing, tucking our children ( with a possibility of shouting/tearing out hair!)

I second the don't answer ruling. it sounds like she knows fine and well she is unwelcome and rude yet she does not care.

How about you knock her up at 6.45 am ??

What do you think is more important, this woman perhaps thinking you are rude or putting your daughter to bed?

Okay I won't open the door in the future

Well done, she'll soon get the message.

Bloody hell she's still doing this? You need to be brutal and honest with her. Tell her not to turn up at this time because you want to spend some time with your children before they go to bed. They don't stay children for very long, it should be understandable that they are your priority.

how good a friend is she?
couldn't you just let her in, let her make herself a cup of tea while you carry on upstairs putting dd to bed?

She doesn't necessarily need entertaining does she? she might just need somewhere to spend half an hour.

my children would want to entertain a bedtime vistor whether they want entertaining or not!

I'd do what amidaiwish suggests. except I'd get her to make me a cup of tea too. or a g and t. and I'd drop large hints that she might like to peel the spuds too.

No she's very intense and would probably insist on coming into my dd's bedroom to chat to her etc etc and dh would not be impressed.

From what I gather from the last post, this woman turns up at the same day and time every week because she has a break in between a sports club and has no where else to go.

The thing is her own house is probably not much further away than mine, so she could even go home if she doesn't fancy the pub on her own.

well in that case, DON'T ANSWER THE DOOR!!

Stick a note on the door:

A selection of fine drunks is available over the road. Do go and join them, and come back after 8pm when we will be delighted to see you for up to 10 minutes.

Disconnect the doorbell. Smear Marmite on the knocker. Get a pet lion. She will soon get the message.

With some people you just have to be straight. Or get her to do some cleaning while you are putting the children to bed. She could be rather useful you know . She may even stop coming on her own . Do you need the cooker cleaning?