AIBU to think this is intimate?

[BlackCherry2024]

Posting here for traffic. Went out with a group of friends and my male friend hugged us as we left. He did a side hug for others and when it came to me, it felt like he pressed his upper body against mine. The hug felt intimate and I got flutters, which I hate admitting.
For context, I’m 5 ft 2 and he’s 6ft and when we have hugged before, it’s always been platonic as we’re both not huggers. The guilt comes from us both being in relationships.
Am I misreading this? Can a hug feel different? His hands didn’t go anywhere inappropriate, just the way it happened and felt.

Might've been accidental.

The first time I met my boss's wife she gave everyone a kiss on both cheeks.

I turned awkwardly and kissed her straight on the lips 🤦‍♀️

He may not have felt it the same way you did. Maybe he felt more comfortable with you, so didn't have to give such a distant hug?

That’s hilarious sorry 🤭
it was the way he pressed up against me that I walked away feeling strange. I suppose he did have to bend down and I thought I’d just get a side hug but you’re probably right!

It sounds like after doing a series of polite hugs to people he doesn't know he wanted to differentiate by giving you a more proper hug.

You are both in relationships. If he meant anything by this he is a scumbag and if you are hoping that he did then so are you

The way you 'felt it' isn't necessarily the way he intended it and his feelings and intention may have been the same as always. It might just have been the physical positions you were in which meant you ended up hugging at that angle, or he might know you better or feel more comfortable with you as a friend so it's more relaxed.
For now you just have to assume maybe you felt it that way but he might not have done and carry on as normal, if something else crops up that will be the tell.

You’re absolutely right and I feel at ease now.

That’s good to know because I’m an over thinker at times and wondered why I was feeling his whole upper body. But thank you for your response.

Not intimate.
Maybe slightly more affectionate if you two are closer than the others?
Or was it the positioning that lined you up for a full frontal bear hug opposed to the side hug?

I’m short so maybe he bent too far this time. Whenever we’ve hugged, it’s always been normal. But it was rushed and we were outdoors so maybe that’s why.

Has he given you any other reason to think the tone of your relationship might have changed? My most intimate experiences with men haven't actually involved sex so I'd agree there's a possibility that there's something there but on its own it's pretty flimsy. Presumably if there is some significance in what you felt you'll be given more indication soon if you haven't already.

Not intimate

truthfully, there has always been chemistry around between us but we’ve never acknowledged it out loud, and we personally don’t really hug.

“it felt like he pressed his upper body against mine”

This sounds like a totally normal hug.

TBH- None of us were there, none of us know what the intent was and what YOU think about this hug might be very different to what HE thought! I wouldn't think that was intimate at all- unless he has been texting you, getting it touch separate to your partner and otherwise been overtly touchy/feeling more than the norm.

We have a 6ft8 friend that DH and I have known for years. I'm 5ft6, but he has to stoop over to hug me. Sometimes it feels a bit harder/longer than other times- but not to the point of feeling creepy. Generally, its a generic hug, sometimes its been a partial hug, pat on the back and peck on the cheek depending on the situation. Like another poster, one of us turned the wrong way and kissed on the lips once! 😦

Maybe he was signaling that he knows you better than the others, but I wouldn't be reading into anything, unless there are other signs.

Best stop the hugging then.

Yes that sounds exactly like how I hug everybody. I hope they don't all think I'm trying to be "intimate" with them. 😶

https://www.wikihow.com/Types-of-Hugs

Is this pointing to some unhappiness in your own relationship? That you're getting feelings from a hug (innocent), is it signifying deeper rooted issues to your own? that you're searching? Are you happy?