To accept that we won't have much relationship

[AntoniaMcMac]

My child aged 6 has started to see dad more. Ie 30 percent of the time. Dad has new girlfriend so will do more. Now my child constantly wants to be at his and seems to have more fun there. I don't think he likes being here. Aibu to accept that I've been replaced by his dad and not expect much of a relationship when he's older ?

He's 6, he doesn't know what he wants or what is good for him. You cannot take any of this personally.

You shouldn't be giving up on your relationship with him because right now (probably won't last) he is enjoying spending time with dad.

Your son needs both of you, but he really needs mum. Nobody will ever replace mum.

My DS would love to live at his grandparents where there’s no limit on ice cream but that doesn’t mean he’ll be closer to them than me as an adult.

You’re his primary carer who has to brush teeth, force feed vegetables and restrict fun stuff. Being less fun definitely doesn’t mean he loves you less he’s probably just enjoying the novelty of it all.

Absolutely not.

My DS likes nothing more than spending time with Disney dad who does none of the hard grunt of day to day life but spends his weekends taking him to theme parks and filling him up on McDonalds.

You're the one doing the day to day normality which, let's face it, when you're 6 is boring and not at all fun, but that doesn't mean you give up and write him off completely 🙄

Carry on as is, the shine of the new GF will soon wear off, things will go back to their status quo

Your DS has a secure attachment to you. He knows you will be there for him no matter what. This means he can spend more time away from you to focus on trying to build his relationship with his dad.
This is the ultimate compliment to you. It means he trusts in your relationship. You should be proud of the security you have given him. Be brave and don’t let on that it hurts. (Even though I’m sure it does!)
Enjoy the extra time you will get to yourself. Your DS will be back.

This is incredibly unhealthy. You have created a competition with with your sons father rather a co parenting relationship.

I hope you don't guilt trip your son by using emotive language about being replaced in front of him.

Your son deserves to have a good relationship with both of his parents. Try to put him first rather than making his relationship with his dad about you.

This. It's so tough when you separate, but the best thing is if you can put your issues to one side & be good parents to your DC. Good luck darling

He's 6, all by means kindly get a grip. You're his mum, he will always love you and want to be with you! Kids change their mind like the wind.

Are you usually this dramatic.

Yep

Take this as a sign, that needs to calm it a bit, as everyone is saying, 6 yrs old.

Can you remember much from being 6? Don't stress, you have a lot to offer, this isn't the make or break of your whole relationship

I cant remember my childhood at all so no.

There you go, 6 isn't the end of the relationship.

No way.

You are his mum and his world. Please don't think you are ever at replaceable.

His dad and new gf are a novelty. His dad a novelty because he's moved out etc.

Be there for your ds. Read together. Do lots of low key, safe lovely stuff together.

You do not need to compete or anything.

You do need to know how very important you are to him though.

As in I've blocked it out.

I hope you are getting the support/treatment you need to avoid passing issues on to your son.