My husband i had an argument last night and he got livid and called me a dumbass b** . In the 20 years we have been , he has never called me the b word and i was so shocked that i said nothing and walked away . He texted this morning apologizing and i have no responded . I dont know what do do next . I feel very disrespected . What should I do ?
For context :
the same night i grabbed dinner for my kids and i and my husband was at work and he gets off from work midnight and usually eats at work . so i didnt make dinner for him as i was busy doing my daughters hair . he came home 6 houra early from work. i finished the girl's hair gave them a bath and put them to bed (while he was laying in bed watching tv ) . I went to the guest room where he was in and he said passsive aggressively that I didn’t make him food . And I explained why and that I can make him something real quick and he said no that he didn’t want to eat and just go to sleep “hungry “ and I went to our bedroom and noticed he left the house few mins later and called to tell me he was grabbing something to eat . He came back to our room with Wendy’s sandwich and fries and I chuckled while he was eating . Mainly because I offered to make him food but he rather eat “junk” than homemade and also he has been saying he won’t eat carbs as he is trying to lose some weight . He got really offended that I laughed and stormed out of the bedroom saying that I laughed at him as he was starving and eating something and went to the guest room and locked the door This really upset me because how is he mad over me chuckling over what he’s eating so followed him and asked and he started to get mad and said to leave him so he can eat in peace . So we went back and forth and I saw he was getting heated and said to get the f* out of the room or he would lose it so I left the room and he shut the door so hard and said you dumbass f**ing bitch . Also to give more context , we have been sleeping in separate rooms for very long time and recently agreed that we would sleep together as sleeping separately is causing intimate issue in our relationship . One of the reasons I was upset bc he took something so small and used it as a reason to get upset and sleep in the other room after promising we will change our sleeping arrangements .