To ask at what age you accepted that you are not going to have children?

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It’s a difficult one. I know I still have time, lots but it’s on my mind.

I recently talked to some women without children, 42-44 year olds and they all said that they accepted that they won’t become mothers the natural way. They may adopt if the set up is right or become step mothers through a new relationship.

It’s a hard one.

When did you know and accept?

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There's an MNers without children forum that may be useful to you. I don't post there because I do have DC, but it's always struck me as very supportive.

The stats are skewed by women using frozen eggs/embryos or donor eggs and having babies past 41.

I don't know anyone who has a baby past 41 without one of these methods.

You're on the wrong forum OP, this is AIBU. How could anyone ever BU to ask a question?

How old are you op? It's a tricky one to answer as it depends on factors like your health and finances to an extent. I have accepted at 37 that I won't have a second but that's because dd is 9 and I wouldn't want to start all over again. I think if I hadn't already had a child I would probably say no later than 41/42

My SIL had a baby without those methods at 45, and two of my NCT group were 42.

I'm 33 (nearly 34) and basically coming to terms with this after being told that I won't conveive naturally and IVF likely won't be successful for me either.

I was 40,newly diagnosed with premature ovarian failure (called primary ovarian insufficiency now), told there was no point having any more IVF with my own eggs. Donor eggs or adoption not an option for us.

In my late 20s I was told I had severe PCOS and it was highly unlikely I would conceive without IVF and even then the chances weren't great. I split from my ex-husband not long after so by mid-30s had resigned myself to not having children.

Then I met my DH in my late 30s and unexpectedly fell pregnant but had a miscarriage. It opened up all the feelings again as I thought it would never happen. We went on to adopt so now at almost 50 I have a very active 5 year old to keep me young :-)

I think you can accept that you're not going to have children but I don't think the feelings ever fully go away (or they didn't for me anyway).

I know several women of that age (42-44) who have become mothers without intervention.

It is not that uncommon anymore.

THIS

I am early 30s but single. I also have PCOS but I have regular periods, never missed any and I know what I ovulate at least every 2-3 months (but could be possibly more)
I don’t know… it tough. I’d love to have a baby at some point. But I worry about time terribly 😞