To not like this

[StarlitBeauty]

I hate when DH thrusts food near my face (like right next to my mouth) when I'm stressed.. how is it supposed to help? Just happened now, i was stressing about something involving our 12 year old and then suddenly he is holding a square of dark chocolate near my mouth. I find it irritating because it feels like he is training me to eat instead of working through things.
His mum is a big feeder and he is overweight so I think he genuinely sees it as showing love and support. I understand that in the moment he probably isn't sure what to do or say to help so it's like, look, here's some sweet, yummy food if anything I will feel worse after, cause it's eating something I don't even fancy in that moment. The worse thing is that when I say no thank you, or thanks but no, he seems offended if I'm rejecting him!

Anyone else have a partner who does this?

I'd hate someone, even my partner, getting into my personal space in that way, regardless of their intentions.

Have you tried saying 'please fuck off?'

Does he think you are one year old?

Ha, feeling vindicated by these responses already!

That would piss me off no end too. My DG will show he cares by offering Tea/Chocolate/Wine in that order depending on the nature of the crises but he knows better than thrusting anything in my face uninvited

That’s so odd, it would make me really annoyed

*DH

Yeah, I told him not to be a feeder. But he forgets and tries again occasionally.

I just don't understand the mindset that goes along with it tbh. I think I would understand if he said 'would it cheer you up if I got you ....'

And pp mentioned about the personal space thing, I'd actually like/prefer a cuddle. Just don't want to be practically force fed. 😑

Oh, god, I'd be snarling "I WANT TO FEEL MY FEELINGS, NOT EAT THEM!" most likely after batting the snack away with disproportionate force.

It's not even 100% true, I've been known to sink my miseries in a family-sized tub of Ben & Jerry's. But on my own schedule, not someone else's!

Haha agree!! I am a grown woman, I have no problem finding the chocolate hobnobs etc when the occasion calls for it but on my own terms!! 👍👍👍

This makes no sense. Why wouldn't he say "I got you some nice chocolate today to cheer you up, would you like some?"

Why is he wordlessly thrusting it at you and pressing it to your mouth?

I just have an image of him standing there in silence brandishing chocolate at you. Does he say something?

Why indeed!

As I stated previously, I think he is trying to do something that he sees as nice in that moment when he can't think what to say or do. But I find it annoying.

Giving me the creeps. Like putting a dummy in a baby's mouth.