Someone close to me has called me out on my arrangements with my ex. I asked for their opinion but being honest I expected them to take my side, I think. They haven’t.
Basically, I am a single parent to dd (2). Ex did some bad things in the past, basically left me to it for first six months of DD’s life. It was a dark time and I don’t know if my residual anger from that time is affecting my views now.
Ex has agreed to pay all dd’s nursery fees and 400 on top per month. He sees dd usually every weekend from sat morning to bedtime Sunday. If I want to do something with dd in this time then I do and he fits around it.
I feel resentful that I have to do every nursery run, every organisation for nursery, every weekday breakfast and bedtime etc. I feel I’m constantly juggling work and dd but in contrast ex is having work all week to focus on then dd on his days off at weekends. There is no way around this as he lives very far away and the arrangement cannot change. He literally can’t do a nursery run even if he was closer as he starts work at 7am and finishes at 8pm. Practically there is no way round any of it but I am regularly feeling bitter and hard done by because I am doing it alone all week and feel like that’s unusual, even with separated parents it’s usually half and half. This person close to me has really lost their cool and said I need to be appreciative of what I have… money and time. Am I being a dick for not seeing this that way? Does anyone understand why I feel frustrations and like it’s not very fair? Or maybe I have become warped in my expectations. I really don’t know anymore.