Before we have our baby DH would be out all most weekends with his brother who is in a band that play gigs all over the UK.
DH did calm down a lot but now DH is out most weekends again with his brother and sometimes staying over (if the gig is far away).
Since the birth of our baby DH has been abroad with his bother, met up with friends, had weekend away when I haven't even done one single thing which I find extremely unfair.
All DH has done is moan about not seeing his brother and how I am coming in between them because I need help looking after our son.
I really feel his brother and his brother's feelings come first.
I have really struggled as I do our child's parenting and DH has little input.
It was a well wanted baby and I do believe DH loves our son as he works all hours to ensure our child has everything.
I really dislike DH's brother who is a selfish lying and deceitful person.
He had multiple children with multiple women and is a terrible absent father himself.
His oldest is in prison for stabbing someone and has drug issues.
The other is on marijuana.
And at least 2 of his children were taken away by social services and adopted.
DH struggles to see why I don't want them near my child.
I don't mind DH seeing his friends and family but I think every weekend is taking the p especially since I don't get to do anything.
His brother is always calling him up and asking him to come XYZ and he feels as if he has to go as his brother moans about not seeing him enough.
His brother will never come to our home to see DH, DH will always have to go out of his way to see his brother.
I'm really thinking of leaving DH as I have had enough of being moaned at and him putting his bother first all the time.
AIBU?