To wonder if this is an insult?

[malificent7]

A few times in my life I have been called " not scary."
I am a trainer at work.Recently at work I said to a colleague don't be svared to correct me and her answer was " oh your nor scary."
Tbh I think she means she thinks I can be pushed around or there is a vulnerability about me. Anyway no idea why I'm annoyed.
My answer was" I don't want to be scary."

It just means she's not 'scared' of you.

She might have actually felt slightly affronted that you thought she might be!

Not an insult. They just mean you’re approachable and easy to work with. Some people are not. Take it as a compliment - it’s exactly how you’d like to be perceived as a trainer.

I think it's a compliment isn't it? Saying you're approachable. That's how I'd take it anyway. Is there other beef with this person that making you interpret it this way?

No, it's not an insult, quite the opposite. It's a good thing that students are not scared of you.

Have you ever been described as 'easily offended'?

Seems like you do want to be scary though? 🤣 since you are taking not being scary as an insult...

I think she meant you are approachable. I wouldn't take it as a negative at all.

I got called 'fearsome' recently. I wasn't entirely sure about that one!

Blimey, another thread where the op is going out of their way to look for an insult that isn't there.

Of course it isn't an insult. As pps have said, it is a compliment even though it was fished for. It means you are approachable which should surely be what you are aiming for.

You told her not to be scared of you... she said you weren't scary and you took that as an insult? Despite her literally just giving you what you wanted?

I swear people on MN are getting more easily offended by the day

She means you're approachable. The opposite of an insult, imho

Hang on -
"Don't be scared to correct me"
"Oh you're not scary"

That's just a totally normal reply to a comment. Not an insult.
How often do you ask "am I scary?"

Tbank you for the rezponses ....seems like I waz masdively overthinking this again!