To be narked?

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I invited my sister and her H out this weekend to a gallery. She accepted the invite, then suggested we go somewhere her H had wanted to go. I don't mind going there so accepted. Her H can be controlling and doesn't much like me but I make the effort.

So then there was talk of us staying over somewhere too and I suggested a tourist town. Somewhere we all love. She got back to me and said that H wanted to go to the place we'd agreed because he wanted to do x and x.

I feel sometimes it's all about what he wants and fuck anything I suggest.

No, it’s understandable that you’d be cheesed off. But your sister sounds willing to facilitate his selfishness and unless she wants to leave him at home, it sounds like it’s the price you’ll have to pay for spending time with her. Maybe it makes her life easier just to go along with whatever he wants and not challenging him.

So many marriages fail these days. I’m not suggesting that you wish that on her, or sacrifice any chickens to the divorce Gods, but I’d bite my tongue and bide my time. In the meantime, just see them when you’re feeling very patient.

@Whothefuckdoesthat She defends him constantly and will go out of her way to swear he's right and I'm in the wrong. He's not a nice person really.